Little background. Been with DH coming up 20 years. Married 10. Still find each other attractive , make an effort and go on dates together. Have a very good relationship tbh.
We have an autistic child who always wants us to put them to bed or one of us sleep with them . And a baby. Baby is fine and sleeps through in own room.
I used to say to DH when he’s out the eldest to bed , we’d have time together. I’d even message DH from next room when he was putting eldest child to bed - to come through type thing. We’d also flirt earlier in the day and say when the eldest is asleep we’ll make time. Well more often than not DH would fall asleep whilst putting them to bed. I felt this was the only way we could spend anytime together. I’ve addressed it a few times. I felt I was always the one pushing and making suggestions to carve out time for us. Anyway I’ve just given up. Totally given up. I am fed up of chasing, asking and being rejected. DH has big corporate job and works really long days , I appreciate he is really tired. I felt though that you should still make time , if you can spend half an hour calling someone at work you can spend half an hour with your wife.
He’s still very flirty and stuff but nothing comes of it since I’ve given up asking or carving time. I just don’t know where to go with it. I used to bring it up and chat about it but even that I’ve given up with. Not sure really the point of my post but I find it a little sad. I don’t know if he’s noticed- but it feels sad I’ve given up now even trying. Is this what happens? 😢 also he’s not getting it elsewhere or anything like that, that’s not my concern. He’s just not got a high sex drive but it was always enough . Now I’ve stopped trying it’s just totally stopped - been about 2 months now I think.