Unreasonable Expectations?

[abitfroggy]

Hello, please don't be nasty to me.

My boyfriend of 2.5 years has been living in another country for the last couple months, he invited me to come out to see him for three weeks. Things have been pretty rocky between us lately. When I arrived I was disappointed to see that he had taken no actions to make me feel welcome in his apartment. He hadn't done even a cursory cleaning, no space made (or offered after I arrived) for me to put my stuff, its just in a suitcase on the floor. He hadn't shopped, didn't offer to cook for me, so the first day I just scrounged food. I feel like I don't matter to him when he doesn't consider very basic things like this. I don't want to read to much into this, but it really hurts my feelings. Is it unreasonable to expect him to have thought of what I would need and prepare for my arrival, just a tiny bit?

Not unreasonable, no.

You're not unreasonable to be upset. He hasn't shown you any love or consideration, he clearly wasn't excited to see you and he is showing you that he doesn't care. How horrible for you to travel all that way to see him and receive such a pitiful welcome

He wouldn't be my partner for much longer. You deserve better than this.

Not unreasonable at all.

My partner and I were LD for about a year, it was always me that travelled (for various reasons) and initially that house was like a show home when I arrived, food was sorted etc. I’d gone to the “trouble” of travelling there, making work arrangements etc, so the effort was kind of expected to be honest.

I would be incredibly disappointed.
Clutching at straws, but was he working all hours so that he could get time off with you?

I did long distance with my hubby for 2 years. He picked me up from airport had shopping in with asking me what I wanted ordered us food / booked tables gave me space in his flat to store clothes / Toiletries and bought them so it felt like a second home always had stufd planned to do to make the most of the time because ldr that time is precious. You are not at the front of his mind and you deserve to be

I would take that as an indication of how he feels about you; not much.