Hi all, name changed for this one. Apologies as it's a facebook one 🙈🙄 I know I will get a few that say ... so what who cares about Facebook? But once I explain, then maybe you will see it's not just about Facebook but a question about whether this behaviour is gas lighting or not?
So here goes, basically I've been seeing man for a year now.
We initially took things slowly, but it has progressed into a serious relationship. We have told each other we love each other , introduced each other to our families. Gone to weddings, birthdays, funerals as a couple.
Just to give a clear picture were in a committed relationship.
Friday evening just gone we took some photos together of us at a party, they came out well and he seemed to love one of the pictures in particular and said this is going to be my new profile picture on Facebook, I said really ? He said yeh I need a new pic and it would be nice to have u in it. He actually said it a few times which I found odd but there you go.
Up until now I've not been on any post on his Facebook... no trace of me at all. I thought him saying this was sweet & seemed genuine.
On Saturday morning we looked at photos taken at the party and there was some great ones with our friends / family and some lovely couple ones. I said to him I'm going to post these later on fb is this ok ? He said yes thats fine.
Later that evening I was back at my place and I get a fb notification a mutual friend had tagged me in some photos so I accepted the tag I then noticed 7 other people tagged including my boyfriend.
I then remembered to post my pics. Also tagging him.
This was Saturday evening.
I have noticed they have never gone on his wall on fb so there is still no trace of me at all. He seems to have some kind of privacy settings so although tagged they didnt show up on his wall? I didnt even know u could do this?
Also he never changed his fb photo to us as a couple and still just looks like a single man.
Now before people say communicate to him I wont see him for a week now and would prefer to do it face to face.
I just wanted to see what others would make of this? It's not like hes never on fb as he often changes his profile picture. Why has he said he will change to him and I and then not do it?
It's not like I asked him too?
Was he giving me a false sense of security? It's so strange.
Why not allow the tagged photos of us together not on his fb wall? We are kissing in one and they are obviously couply.
Opinions please
Thank you