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Xmas

9 replies

SaraM44 · 03/11/2024 17:27

I have been seeing my partner for a while now and this will be our first Xmas together.
He has a 12 nearly 13 year old daughter and I would like to get her some presents but no idea what to get. If anyone has a daughter that age I’d love some ideas! TIA

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TipsyJoker · 03/11/2024 17:31

Have you met her? Does she know you?

TwistedWonder · 03/11/2024 17:32

How long is ‘a while?’

Have you met the DD?

Inezz · 03/11/2024 17:34

All 12-13 year olds are different! So you'll need to ask her what she's in to for ideas!

AlertCat · 03/11/2024 17:39

The Cruel Prince series of books by Holly Black is very popular here.

Maybe some nice small earrings that can be worn at school?

Book token.

Token for a shop she likes, or one of those multi-shop tokens.

Hard cash.

Gladiatortwo · 03/11/2024 17:44

Board game.
Decks of playing cards.
A beanie with her favourite logo
Big luxurious box of biscuits
Lovely box of chocs

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 03/11/2024 18:16

I would go box of chocs or a boots gift set TBH. I think if you try to go in with something too personal it's going to come across a bit try-hard. Especially if you haven't spent much time together.

BadPeopleFan · 03/11/2024 19:33

My daughter is 14 but....makeup, skincare, haircare, bath/shower products, ASOS/PLT etc vouchers, cute fluffy socks, new pjs would all go down well!
If you don't know her very well probably stick to socks and bath stuff.

Burntouted · 03/11/2024 23:49

Perhaps it is best firstly if you were to ask permission to gift her something. She has parents...ask 1 or both of them...

If someone or both gives you permission to do so, ask what would be an appropriate gift. Limit it to only one gift then. A token gift..if you were to get multiple or a large gift it may not be well received by the parents..it may be seen as trying to upstage, infiltrate and outdo her mother or both parents.

If you've never met, if she doesn't know about you, if you've never spent any time with her of substance, if you've been dating a short time, if he's been recently out of a relationship, if she's not accepting of you.....

It would probably be inappropriate of you to gift her.

Burntouted · 04/11/2024 00:02

Also, if this is will be your first Xmas together...and his child is there .. perhaps it may be wise to let them share that time together.... without you.

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