My ex and I ended things over a year ago, due to something traumatic that happened to someone in my life, but had just as a profound effect on me. Ever since then I have just been single and have tried talking to a couple of other guys, but it was such a turn off and not because he was on my mind. Throughout the relationship we had our ups and downs, and it did bring up trauma in me that I didn't even know existed. Yet at the same time, I fell madly in love with this person. Even though he is probably dating someone, the connection I feel for him has never died out. And I believe that he has felt the same. Idk if he had a personality disorder, but there was definitely a few things off about him. Even though we had our good times, and me wanting to be a safe space, he opened up a tiny bit, with just surface level stuff, but nothing ever truly deep. I would bear my soul to this person, and I don't mind doing it to this day, because the love I feel for him, is just that overpowering and I want to shout to the rooftops. I know it may sound stupid to even want to have a future with this person, but I love him, despite the emotional rollercoaster I experienced and many other emotions. However, when I think about him or when we were together and I would be in his presence or look at him. I always saw his inner child just wanting to be loved as well as mine and I just see greatness inside of him, despite his flaws and his avoidant tendencies. As well, as far as focusing on myself. I have been trying my best to do that with everything life throws at me.
Just asking and not saying he is, but do you think a narc can transform?
Has anyone ever been with a narc who changed and how long did it take?
Do avoidant personality types always have a deep connection with at least one person?