Been seeing each other casually for 3 months. I have feelings but play it cool most of the time. A few times I’ve said I can’t do it anymore but he’s reeled me back in. The last month has been lovely, we’ve been in constant contact and have seen each other 2-3 times a week sometimes we go out.
However every so often through the whole time I’ve known him, he has these episodes where he gets down about life. But this last week has been quite bad. We were fine texting over weekend about it but Monday onwards he went quite distant with me. So Friday I asked if we could arrange something soon. He said yes. But then said he would let me know when, normally he asks when I’m free. So I asked if he still wanted to continue. He said he was having a bad time and needed time to sort his head out. I said I’d leave him alone. He said he did not want me to leave him alone but he gets like this sometimes. proceeded to tell me he gets lonely etc, I said come out with me as we both in same boat. He said we’d sort something out. I then said text me later if you want, not expecting him to at all. But he did and said sorry I’ve been distant, it nothing about us, I love spending time with you, I’m not seeing anyone else just going through a hard time. The next day I said I hoped he had a better day to which he said thanks and he knows I’m being kind. I left it with I don’t like to see people down, he needs to work through it and I’d leave him be.
not heard from him since.
Do we think this is legit or just a way of trying to make distance in the hope I get the hint?
If it is legit, how much space do I give him?
I’ve given him ample opportunities to stop it which would be easier for me, so if he wants to stop why can’t he just say so.
im frustrated and thank you for reading this far!