Partners behaviour acceptable?

[Ilovethesunshine12]

Looking for help and advice for partner that on/ off smokes.

Im really struggling with my husband’s behaviour.
For countless years he’s smoked on and off. He always tells me he wants to stop and does try to. I really support this but his behaviour is so unpredictable and I think unacceptable when he try’s to stop. I don’t and have never forced him to stop.

At the moment we are in a constant cycle of him stopping which goes well for a couple of days then he becomes so angry, shouting at the kids, no fuse, screaming - just completely (what I think is) unacceptable. We never know where we stand.

He’s tried the tablets and all sorts.

I’ve never smoked so don’t understand but is this normal?

can anyone give any help or advice?

Totally unacceptable, he should take himself off for a walk instead

Withdrawal makes you grumpy as fuck.

Maybe I’m being unrealistic. I bet it’s awful, I can’t imagine what it must be like.

I’ve not said it to him, but I’m at the point where I’d rather he just continue to smoke because I can’t deal with his outbursts. It’s next level aggression.

Yeah it’s horrible. It’s one of the reasons it’s so difficult to quit. Because you know if you just smoke, you won’t be such a miserable bastard any more.

It's horrible isn't it. This is why smoking is an absolute dealbreaker for me when dating. My son's dad was horribly addicted and it caused so much grief. Once I was single, I filtered dating sites by smoking but my next boyfriend ticked that he was a "non-smoker" because he'd given up for a week
I let it go and then put up with him being grumpy and beating himself up for falling off the wagon for over 18 months. Never again.

No it’s not acceptable but it is also a common side effect of withdrawal. Pretty horrible for those around the addict. Maybe he would do better with hypnosis. He could give this a try.