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Just told my husband I want to separate

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Butternutsqoosh · 02/11/2024 20:15

Husband number 2, so I'm not very good at this it turns out! Have told my husband this evening that I want to separate. It's been on the cards for years. We have been together for 10, married for nearly 8. No kids together but have our own from age 14 and up to 22. He's never been affectionate or loving, and I was completely besotted with him when we first met. He promised me the world and everything went tots up! Lost his business so I ended up working longer hours to compensate, racking up cc debt. Done various businesses since, none of which have taken off and I'm just so tired. I now work 3 jobs and take care of the house and the one child who is still at home. We've had these chats over the years but nothing has ever changed. I never feel loved or appreciated and tonight I'm done. He's convinced there's someone else - there isn't - and the first thing he said was well we'd better start selling stuff. Not in love you, you're my life please don't do this. Not really asking anything, just feel so horrible and guilty. I never wanted to hurt him, but I have.

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Meadowfinch · 02/11/2024 20:25

He has hurt you repeatedly over the years with his coldness. Doesn't that count?

In the end, if you aren't happy and nothing can fix that fact, then to separate is the best thing for everyone.

I'm sorry.

BirthdayRainbow · 02/11/2024 20:28

I get the pain of the man you thought loved you more than anything giving up on you in an instant.

Say goodbye, file for divorce, start your better future.

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