Long story….. my ex and I divorced in 2017, I left him due to his controlling behaviour and what I now know is narcissism. I got what I thought was a very secure consent order. He then met someone new a year later. I had the children virtually full time so I had no time to meet anyone new. He then started proceedings to reduce maintenance to me and at the same time a child arrangement order to the existing arrangement so that it would make it impossible for me to have free time or work whilst he also reduced my maintenance. This all to pursue his new women. I lost both cases as I had no funds to legal advise and was a litigant in person. He then had a child 2 years ago with her and then married her last year. Ever since he has met her he has distance himself from our children and allow hers to disrespect them. I suspect he has lied to her about me and this has caused resentment which she took out on my children. I know him and I know what he is capable of and she is his new supply so he will guard that with his life. he seems to think that because he has her his obligations to hos children and me financially no longer exist. I have two children with special needs which’s is why I’ve been home. He feels that having to pay me is holding back his nee future! Erm yeah well that’s what happens in divorce for both parties and you just do your best for your kids until they are old enough. Well he won’t have this and thinks he is e titled to more and is now attempting to stop all payments to me entirely as well as school fees and make us homeless and cause me £40,000 debt because of it.
I have never contacted his now wife I wanted to meet her as my children were staying there but he refused. I am now seriously considering emailing her and sending her some emails and texts that he has sent me over the years to show her what he is really like. My motivation for this and I will be totally honest here. Are to screw his life up after what he is doing to me and my children again. We have had to move 3 times in the last 2 years because of this. We have had absolutely no home security since the divorce and we have all be through hell with since the divorce and have been unable to have any successful new relationships due to repeated litigation.
he is now trying again to reduce payments to ZERO and hiding his finances by not disclosing in legal proceedings. I have a strong feeling his wife has sold her house that she was renting out and that they have bought another together and are waiting for the proceedings to end with my case and then will put in notice to end their tenancy and move.
he has over the years sent me emails and texts with sexual connotations which obviously I have zero interest in.
so i am thinking of sending them to her so that she knows what he is really like! I known it is vindictive and it really is not my usual manner but I am so angry that he is doing this to us again whilst he thinks he can sail off into the sunset.
question is what could be the legal repercussions of this?