Help! ONS will be at event I'm going to. Feeling anxious.

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Hoping the wise women of MN can give me some advice or share stories of how they dealt with things like this.

So, a few years ago, I went to a friend's NYE party. When I was there, I met a guy. We were the only two single people there and well...we ended up sleeping together that night. I enjoyed it at the time but afterwards, I felt bad about it and it made me realise ONS aren't for me.

We added each other on Facebook afterwards but didn't keep in touch, and I've not seen him since. But in a few weeks, I've been invited by the friend who held the party to a Christening. And the guy I slept with will be there with his partner and baby too! Awkward...

I don't think I'll be able to avoid him, and I know I'm probably being silly, but it's made me feel quite anxious. She's a good friend and I've said I'll go, but just knowing that he'll be there makes me feel like I don't want to. My friend knows about what happened at the party.

Has anybody had a similar thing before, awkward public encounters with a former ONS, and how did you deal with it?

Anyone? Hopeful bump.

The only thing to do is pretend it never happened, you can't not go. Don't build it up too much. Have fun!

As the kids say, it's not that deep.
You were two consenting adults who had sex.
The end.
No need for awkwardness or hard feelings. Be grown up about it and he will to.
Say hello. Make pleasant chat if you want. And that will be the end of it.

Hold your head high. Nod and smile. There is nothing to feel bad about your both adults. He has settled down. You have you life.

You were both consenting adults, time moves on. Smile, say hello, move on, nothing to be embarrassed about.

Just smile politely and introduce yourself as if your pretty much strangers, if you end up chatting alone a bit later you could feel you want to make light of what happened or joke about it. But I'd say it's best just left as a memory of the past. He won't want to make a scene any more than you will. But neither of you did anything wrong. These things happen often. If he was horrible you'd have blocked him and he's clearly not single now. So just enjoy the party!

You're making this wayyy bigger than it needs to be.

This is one of those things you worry about beforehand, then when you get there and you see him, you wonder what all the fuss was about.

I’d make sure I looked great, though.

Honestly it will be fine and will only become a thing if you make it one!

I was at a wedding (with my DH and children) where the best man was someone I had a brief fling with before I met my husband. We both just chatted about life now rather then talking about something which happened 13 years previously!