Thought I saw my ex today

[TheSnugHare]

I live in Scotland. My ex knows where I live obviously. This morning I went to a nearby park to walk the dog and as I was coming out I thought I saw my ex crossing the road towards me. They looked very similar to him, same height, same sort of face. It could have been him, I don’t know if it was or not. He’s supposed to be in England, where he said he’s moved to. I could’ve sworn I’ve seen him months ago, that same person. It might not have been him but they looked the same although I didn’t stay to get a closer look. I told myself to blank him and I just walked straight past quickly with my music in. I looked behind me when I was a bit further away and they stood at the entrance looking in my direction. It made me feel really anxious. Has he moved to my area? Is he actually living here now? Should I stay and get a closer look if there is a next time?

I guess it depends on whether you would want to see him and how it ended?
Is he on social media or would you not really want to know anyway?

Was it a normal awkward/ sad breakup and you’re just not keen to see him again? Or are you scared of him and think he might be stalking you? If you’re not worried about him hurting you or harassing you, get a closer look next time. It might well just be someone else who looks similar to him. If you’re scared of him for any reason, maybe just tell some local friends or neighbours who knew him and see if anyone has heard anything?

I found out he’s been messing with my head and is an abuser, I always knew something was wrong but couldn’t put my finger on it, I’m doing the freedom program. I wouldn't put it past him but it was probably someone else. If I see them again I will look closer.

If he’s been ´messing with your head’ post breakup and you think he could be stalking you/ trying to freak you out, then go with the asking around option!

Ok I will ask his mother but I don’t know if she will respond

now that I think about it I remember seeing one of his gloves earlier on this year just by my house when he was staying somewhere else. I put it down to it probably being someone else’s, but it was a distinct type of glove that he wears all the time

Has he been sending you unwanted messages/ calling you? If there’s already a history of harassment and now you’re worried he’s physically following you then you might want to get some advice from the Police on how to deal with this.

we have had an on/off relationship but now I’m determined more than ever not to go back.
To be fair he blocked me this time. He hasn’t had to do anything to make me go back, I’ve always just gone back to him. The longest we’ve gone without talking is a few weeks. He always unblocks me, usually after a few days or a week. The last time he unblocked me he said it was because he missed me.that was the only time he reached out by himself.
Recently there was a rare occasion where we hadn’t fallen out but I didn’t message for almost a week. He started messaging me trying to get a response. It’s a bit different now that we have fallen out.
whenever I go back he tells me he didn’t miss me, why am I bothering him, I don’t matter, and so on.
I’ve never just gone no contact indefinitely because he knows I come back. I don’t know if he will try to come back to me if I leave for a while.
I’m not sure if he would stalk me or not. But I suppose I can’t put it past him after learning about the abuse.

The last time he blocked me I told him that I’ve told my neighbours and other people (it’s a small town) about him. I didn’t tell him what I’d (apparently) said but it was implied. And to be honest I made it up. I didn’t speak about him. He said I’ve burned my bridges and it’s the end of the road