Not contacting me before a date?

[Fishcake18]

So I've been messaging this guy on and off for six weeks..we originally met in real life (in the spa..) and chatted 4/5 times before he asked for my number.. At first it was every day messaging and a bit of cheeky sexting (we'd known each other a little while at this point and he was VERY attentive the first few weeks) Since then contact has been on and off- good morning, the odd text chat, a few deeper ones, and we've met up briefly a few times at the gym /spa for 15 minutes/one hour

So we're meant to have our first 'official' date this Saturday - coffee, lunch - not sure what he's thinking yet.. but the last text contact we had was Monday! For me this feels a bit weird not to check in.. and I guess I miss how often and attentive he was in those first few weeks.. I'm not sure if he is avoidant/uncertain or just feels there's no need to contact now we have a proper plan.. Is this normal?? And maybe just a man/woman thing??

Am I over thinking this??

But OP has met him several times - and has cancelled his previous 2 attempts to organise dates, so not quite the same situation

If you haven't already just message today and ask if the date is still on.

what happened in the end OP? did you meet?

Sorry but EITHER he's getting cold feet OR thru some weird notion he thinks you'll like him more if he 'plays it cool' and doesn't contact you!

Usually they can't stop contacting me. OK that sounds like I'm up myself but I'm not saying it like it's a good thing!

How did this turn out?

No contact no date.
Men who are interested don’t stop contact.