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Help please. I need some serious advice. So 5 weeks ago I told my husband of 2 and half years (together nearly 8) that I can’t do this anymore. I can’t be in this relationship. Ive felt this way for nearly a year now, and I did discuss things with him about how I was feeling earlier in the year April time to which he just accused me of having an affair because I couldn’t possibly not want this life, but I put it aside in June because I didn’t want to hurt people. But I can’t bury it and fake it anymore. I just don’t want to be in this relationship.
We have 2 children together.

I don’t fancy him. I don’t want to kiss him. I don’t want him to touch me and I centraintly don’t want to have sex with him. I’ve fallen out of love with him. I see him as a friend and the father to my children, but I don’t love him the way I should to continue our relationship. That decision hasn’t changed in 5 weeks and I don’t see it changing.
but my problem is, everyone else in the situation. My parents who myself and husband are super close with, really don’t want me to leave him. I (and my parents) had a turbulent 10 years before I met my husband so for my parents, all they see is stability, love and a good life (which is true, it’s what I have with my husband) but they aren’t considering my feelings, wants & needs. Now believe me when I say, I have tried to stay and force it for the sake of the kids & my parents but it’s not making any of us happy in the family home. I moved into the spare room a couple weeks ago but he’s made it clear last week that if I don’t start acting like a wife should, kissing, cuddling etc, then I need to move out. So I am moving out to live in hotels and friends sofas till sormething more permanent comes up. I’ll be coming home every morning before work and school to see the kids and I’ll also be picking them everyday from school plus having them every other weekend at the family home (he’ll be staying out to give me alone time with the kids).
How do I get my parents to accept this and not hate me for my decision? They say about the kids, which I get they are worried, but they will still have both parents who love them dearly, and surely 2 happy homes will be better than 1 miserable home?

You cannot live in hotels and come home at the mornings. WTF . Whatever your decision, do that thing properly

The “turbulant” decade you had - what was that actually like? Was it a slightly bumpy career or was it punctuated by what the general public would think of as incredible instability?

Don't leave the family home until you've had legal advice. Which will most likely advise you to stay put, otherwise you may lose out financially

Don't leave your kids with him as you may lose residency permanently.

Don't* *be manoeuvred into making rash decisions that give him everything because you feel guilty or you're being bullied.

Stay put. Unless you're at risk of violence.

Sofa surfing and hotels? No. Stop this bollocks.

As pp said, you need to get a more practical solution in place. Get the divorce rolling.

As for your parents, put the foot down 'understand that I acknowledge your concerns but, I've thought things through and this I'd the best decision for the kids too. Frankly if you don't agree, keep it to yourself. I have enough to do moving forwards. So support me or step off'.

Also, frankly your partner is creepy. Asking you for physical affection like your some sort of property when you've told him it's over. Ick.

Faster you get out the better. But consult a solicitor first.

It's not your parents decision.

Don't move out though.

Don’t move out. Get a lawyer. Hold firm with your parents, it’s not their business. Good luck op.

This.

Assuming the house is also yours, he can't demand you move out.

I know it's awkward but you talk about providing two happy homes and that ain't sofa surfing.

Can you afford your own place financially?

I wouldn't be moving out of the family home and he can't force you to. You need to get legal advice and start the divorce process, no point in dragging it out and prolonging the pain for everyone. Your parents will get used to the idea in time. Of course they're upset and worried about all of you. Try and stay calm and don't go into too much detail with them - just tell them the relationship has irrevocably broken down and you are both going to do your best to co-parent amicably. You don't owe them all the details of your marriage breakdown.