I've namechanged for this one as DH has been known to read my posts in the past. I'd welcome views and advice on this dilemma. I shall try to be as brief as possible.
DH and I have been married 10 years, with 2 DC. When DC were pre-school, I worked part-time and returned to full-time work once they were at school. I was happy to work PT as I felt that I had the best of both worlds at the time ? earning money and being able to spend time with the family, and saw it as a means to an end. However, I was always unsatisfied working in my line of work in accountancy, and researched a career change (nursing) with a view to pursue this once both DCs were at school. I want to feel like I am making a contribution to society, and escape the rat-race. This would entail a full-time course of study. I have been working towards this over the last 2-3 years by undertaking voluntary work and an evening course so that I am qualified to apply for the course. We are lucky to be able to fund the retraining course without it affecting our financial stability.
DH has never been fully supportive of this ambition of mine, and we have talked about this over and again over the years, always reaching a stalemate situation in our beliefs. His reasons have changed over time, and as I had overcome each reason, he has brought new ones to the table. The current sticking point is the impact of my the time that I would spend studying would mean that I may have less time to spend with the family on practical level (and I suspect the extra onus this would mean to him).
DH and I feel so diametrically opposed at this situation, that I feel that it is a career or marriage decision, and he has said the same. I feel that if he cannot support my decision to change career, then I am scared that I will resent him forever. Am I being selfish?
Thank you for reading so far. I would value any suggestions that you can offer.
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Impasse situation - marriage vs career?
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NonnyNooNoo · 25/04/2008 14:45
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