2 months PP, husband may have cheated on me

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My husband may have cheated on me whilst I was 4 months pregnant. I was on his phone and a message from an unknown number popped up saying "I messed up, just get back to me". My instincts told me to check cause my husband has ALL numbers saved so it was odd. I scrolled up and saw they met up before that message, idk why but I decided to call the number. It was his ex girlfriend's voice. I said her name and she ended the call. All my worst fears confirmed. I immediately confronted him and he was talking round in circles till he came clean. He insists he met up with her but nothing happened. I'm currently 2 months PP and am extremely vulnerable and terrified.

He's been begging for my forgiveness. He says during the start of my pregnancy, we were rocky but our son has brought us so close together. They have such a special bond. He's a brilliant father to him.

We own a home together. He's been in the guest room since this happened. I'm not sure what to do. I don't trust him. I think there's more to it. But I don't want to raise this baby alone. I'm so afraid!

Have you thought about counselling? For both of you and seperate.

Go to surviving infidelity and speak to the people there. They will give you good advice. I think you need to think about what you would need from him to be able to trust him again. For me, that would be complete honesty and full disclosure about what happened, all the gory details no matter how hurtful they might be. I would want to see all communications between them. I would expect him to block her on everything. I would expect him to stay sleeping in the spare room and give you time to process. However, everyone is different and you need to think about what you want. Don’t make decisions based on fear. Make decisions based on what will make you happy.

I’d be willing to bet that they have slept together at least once but probably more. Why else would he meet up with an ex and not tell you about it when you were 4 months pregnant. And since he met up with her that time, I’d be willing to bet they were communicating for at least some time behind your back before that because they didn’t just meet up out of the blue. There was communication leading up to that. So, not only has he lied about meeting her but he’s lied about communicating with her beforehand. And he did this while you were at your most vulnerable and carrying his child. That for me, says a lot about his true nature and the quality of his character.

I’ve been a single parent and although it’s hard it also has some benefits. For example, when your child is with their other parent, you get free time to relax, meet up with friends, or whatever you want to do. You don’t have to live with a man you don’t trust in a horrible, tense atmosphere and your child doesn’t either. You can get financial support in the form of maintenance and certain benefits. For example, universal credit, etc.

Awful for you OP when you should be enjoying your new baby.
The one thing that leaps out is him saying they met up " but nothing happened ". Every single time a guy is caught out this is the stock reply.
Even if it were true and " nothing happened " why was he meeting up with her in the first place? Why was he even in contact with her. You were pregnant and he was supposedly preparing to be a father. Why was he meeting up with his ex ?
If the trust has gone OP I doubt it will come back. He would have continued hiding this if you hadn't found out by accident and you have no idea what else he is hiding.

Wonder what she "messed up"?

Leaked messages I bet