When I met dh 6 year ago (second time marriage for us both in our 30’s) I was fun, spontaneous and exciting. I had lots of money and our children went to other parents every other weekend. We had the best time, city breaks, dirty weekends, last minute flights, great sex anywhere we could. Just really fun.
We both had dc with our previous relationships and decided neither of us wanted anymore as we enjoyed our child free weekends. But now our teen dc have decided they prefer to stay with us (apparently we have more fun) but never stay with their other parents all at the same time, so I feel I don’t get any adult time.
our sex life is near on non existent, the kids stay up as late as us.
i feel drained and not the person I was when we met, he is also stressed and money is tighter.
the 4 dc are 13-15 so not old enough to be left over night and also I wouldn’t leave them together as they argue or mess around with things they shouldn’t.
we can get days off work between school hours as work is flexible so I’m looking for suggestions of day time activities we could do after they have left for school to bring some excitement back