Upset after dad's funeral

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Dad lived to 87 and had wonderful deep friendships lasting 70 years. A lot of them have died or very old, but all these people who we grew up with as "cousins" ie the same generation as me didn't come
For various (IMO flimsy) excuses. They weren't even away. Granted it was a 3 hour drive away , but it was on a weekend. My amazing dad was so loyal and so sincere- we went to all their family funerals and my parents went abroad for their family weddings etc

It feels hurtful, that when it counted they werent there to honour the old relationships the parents had and their relationship with my dad who they all say they loved.. and to support us as a family.

I feel differeny about these "cousins" now

Sorry for your loss of your DFather

In my family, the "younger cousins" have attended funerals, to show support & respect.
It is customary to send flowers or donations to a nominated charity if someone is unable to attend in person.

Did your cousins provide you with reasons for not attending or to someone else in your family ?

However, I would try not take this personally.

Perhaps you could organise a meet up of your cousins & relatives for a different social occasion in the future ?

@HeMadeDinner2N1teYAh

I don't see any point to be honest. I think they have shown their colours. They didnt send flowers or a donation

It's poor form. I would be hurt by this too OP. As you've said they have shown their true colours. I would distance myself after this.