Told him to go sleep in the other room. Sulky childish prick.

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My OH when he drinks 9/10 times he’s absolutely fine. Fun to be around etc but on that one occasion he’s absolutely vile.

on a family holiday with my dad. Him and my dad have made their way through god knows how many beers. He’s come to bed, I’ve come a bit after and we said we would have sex. Instead of being romantic or sweet he’s done something really gross and called me something derogatory (I’m assuming to get me in the mood? Thick twat). I’ve got grossed out and said I don’t want to have sex with you when you’re being like that. He’s said okay night love you and rolled over. I’ve asked to talk about it for him to get what I’m saying and make sure we’re okay before we go to sleep. I know I should probably of left it most most of the time he’s receptive, we talk about it and move on. However - Switch flipped

he’s brought up old arguments, said I’m dragging stuff on, told me ‘off to sleep, bored of listening to you’. Kept saying night. Night. When I’m talking. Sighed and said ‘sorry’ and I asked what for and he said he doesn’t know or care. He’s not listening. He’s called me boring. I asked him to stop turning his back to me and talk to me properly so we can fix this, he’s then called me controlling. Called me emotional and saying I’m emotionally blackmailing him ?(was calm the whole way through, didn’t cry or raise my voice, I just said it’s not fair on him to shut down when I’m trying to communicate) Ive tried to speak nicely, tried to just get him to see why I don’t get turned on by that and he’s just got nastier and nastier to a point where I’ve told him to go sleep on the sofa (don’t know about anyone else but I struggle to sleep next to someone who has just ripped into me for trying to talk to them?!) cause he’s drunk and acting like a child to a point where he’s now saying he’s done with me, I’m a phsychopath and I ruin everything.

I just wanted a place to vent and laugh at his absolute stupidity. He’s drunk and being a cock and I’m stuck with this sulky loony for the next week. Please help me stay in a mood with him tomorrow cause I know I’ll just want to fix it for everyone’s sake and he will sulk and try make me suffer tomorrow cause I made him sleep on the sofa. Please anyone who deals with stupid sulky boyfriends help me out. Don’t worry I’m well aware it’s another nail in the coffin for his stupid self!

You should have waited to talk properly the next morning.

id let it go….

I don't know what the gross thing was. If it was an insulting name or if he did something to you then you need to consider if you want to be in the relationship.

If he was aiming for funny and you weren't amused then you should have left it.

Either way it wasn't a conversation to be had then it needed to be dealt with in the morning.

But why does he drink if he knows he might turn horrible

Curious what you would have said that was worse than what he said really and why you think he handled it so well? I’ve already admitted that yeah in hindsight I should have just left it for the night and spoke about it today but me saying I don’t like when you do this to me (also to reply to PP saying smell my fingers and pretending to put them on his dick and up my nose. I thought he had actually done it and say bend over you slag😂) does that not entitle me to just say when you do that it makes me feel A,B and C without being called names and completely ignored and shut down?. He’s a bit of a joker but he went too far and it’s not okay for me to call him out on that? Sorry but as much as I should of just left it for tomorrow, his response was childish and unfair.

He sounds gross OP. Throw this one back!