If not online then where? Single mum and dating

[FestiveBakewell]

I have read a few posts over the years now from people saying how horrendous online dating is and to avoid it at all costs as apparently it’s just full of men only wanting sex and to meet someone irl. But how does that happened when you are a single mum with limited time to yourself? I don’t have free time to go to hobbies and meet ups and haven’t met anyone irl so far with limited time I will be dating during the day but there is not much on during the day for obvious reasons..What do other single mums do? Are the apps really that bad?

Babysitters?

I guess most people wouldn't want to date or get into a relationship where they could only see that person in the day. (Unless they are shift workers I guess?)

Do you work? Lots of people meet people at work.

I work from home so not that’s not an option. If men aren’t ok with that then I guess I will have to accept that but I am happy to try! I’ve known people to date that way until I get to know them then they can eventually come over when kids are asleep (I will stress once I get to know them more!)

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I wouldn’t have a strange man here with the kids? I meant I would date initially in the day and get to know someone no different to meeting them at night 🤷🏻‍♀️ no I don’t have babysitters so would date during the day.

There's nothing wrong with the apps, however you meet someone their intent is and honesty is an unknown. What the apps do is expose you to a larger number of people and a lower bar in terms of effort required to interact with you.

Apps do expose or encourage particular behaviors, I could prattle on about that and articles I've read but none of it is unique to people you meet via apps. Like people you meet anywhere else, proceed at whatever pace and way you're comfortable with

If you don't want to do that, tho, there are options. Speed dating is still a thing, and there's expanding your social circle via social/hobby groups to encounter and get to know people. Not so easy with kids and childcare, obviously, but should it be possible now or later on then its something to consider

I'm a single Mum of 5 years and started feeling like I'm ready to make an effort to meet someone. I've recently looked on Facebook dating again, would meet as friends at first and see how it goes. I selected looking for females and responses are 99% male so not brill for me. I've not reciprocated with anyone yet but if I find someone who looks nice and seems interesting I might click like as friend, talk for a bit and possibly meet and go from there. I've always preferred to be friends first anyway but If you're wanting something more and faster tinder might be for you.