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Help me work out what's going on here

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freckledlegs · 27/10/2024 21:34

So a few months ago I met a man, a friend of a friend, and instantly felt a spark of interest. I could tell it was mutual, we were on the same wavelength. We talked for hours and then got each other's numbers to meet up again, and since then have met up several times at each other's houses in the evening.

And so here comes the complexity. He is very neurodivergent, and said so; very autistic. Nothing sexual has happened, in fact he said he's worried about/not trying to get into a relationship. We've sat and talked very deeply and really liked each other. I just can't tell what's going on. Do you think we're really making friends, which I'd also like and be very pleased with? I haven't heard of this happening before, but I really like it.

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BabyCloud · 27/10/2024 21:38

Listen to what he’s told you. He doesn’t want a relationship.
You’re going to have to ask him what’s going on because nobody else will have a clue.

freckledlegs · 27/10/2024 21:40

Yes, I don't necessarily want one either. I suppose I am worrying I am leading him along/on in some way, when I do just absolutely love hanging out with him.

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sarah0106 · 27/10/2024 21:44

I'd ask him next time you see him, he seems to knows what he wants so just drop it into conversation, if friendships what he wants and your happy then win win for both of you Grin

freckledlegs · 27/10/2024 21:47

The thing is not being vain but he did seem like he just threw that clumsily into the conversation as a sort of defence mechanism, I don't know him well enough to know if that's possible though. He seemed to make a total beeline for me otherwise, in all ways. Yes, I will try to ask him.

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