Don’t even know where to start with this. Really just need to vent and see what other opinions are of this. Moved in with my boyfriend rather soon, because of a situation I had no control over. Knew he had a good relationship with ex wife, didn’t realise what that entailed. I don’t have any kids, he has 2 and an ex wife of 7 years. We live in a 2 bedroom house so when the kids stay we sleep on the couch, not ideal when I work every weekend but been told by him this is how it is. Hes made it clear time and time again his kids are his priority. I get that but I don’t need reminded and verbally told constantly or within the way he lives his life and shows no consideration. He is very insensitive so I’ve figured. He goes to ex wife’s house to do diy and fix things, which I wouldn’t mind if he made the effort with his house also. He has absolutely no desire to have a nice home but will make sure the ex wife has a beautiful home. I put most of my money into this house and buy things for the house and also to treat his children and ourselfs to days out when they come to stay so that we are all involved in activities and can bond. This normally turns into the 3 of them and me being left out. Hes even called me his ex wife’s name infront of them previously. The kids talk about their mum constantly - absolutely fine as that’s their mother but he also does too. Hes constantly on the txt to her or phone to her, she always wants favours or money, or relying on him for something or anything. Hes told me he would do anything for her. This might be down to guilt by leaving her for another woman. I don’t think the guilt of a failed marriage should dictate my relationship. Today I ordered a new couch in time for Christmas, also something a bit comfier to sleep on at the weekends. I was to pay £55 a month for the couch, just assumed that he would offer to pay half. £27.50 isn’t really breaking the bank. Ex wife txts him 5 minutes later and says daughter wants something expensive for Christmas and he has offered to half it, After spending nearly £1000 last weekend for their Christmas and an extra £100 for another activity. Now I realise this is his money and he can choose however he likes to spend it and I have no say in it. I asked him if he would half the couch monthly, the look on his face said it all. I cancelled the couch right there and then. I realise now that not only at Christmas but all the time his finances are tied up and I will probably never be able to make the house a home and I will end up fitting the bill. He isn’t trying to build a life with me or just isn’t interested. It’s pretty clear his family will always come first, divorced or not. Feeling pretty hurt but what goes on and finding it very hard to cope with. Also sleep in seperate beds, have done for months. Says I’m a nightmare to sleep in a bed with. Feel like I’ve made a massive mistake moving in with someone who isn’t ready to move forward in life