Not after advice as its pretty clear what to do going forward. Just ranting
Fil has always been shit with the kids. He was also a absent and shit father to dh. He is a decent man ( if you put aside he had an affair and left his wife and kids). He us intelligent kind and popular. Dh and his brother and the kids adore him dispite being practically available, he promises a lot. Is great at throwing money around etc.
Anyway. Last month he had a heart attack and stents. Was ( as always) very cryptic on the details and it's like pulling teeth getting directly to the point. Step mil said he'd been rushed to hospital with chest pains, otherwise maybe we wouldn't have been told. They are always on holiday. Always. They have always said they are spending the inheritance and they mean it. So, as they are never home, we can never visit. Until the heart attack. Fil says he can't travel post stent for a few months. Cue dh asking to visit.
Fil says he is away from now until January ( how? ) also the weather isn't nice, let's wait for good weather. He hasn't seen my dd since she was 3. She is ten now. How many more summers does he think he has in his late 70s after a heart attack that required multiple stents?
We 100% know now there will never be a good time to visit. He has always got an excuse and looks like he is lieing about this three month holiday as he told us two weeks ago they had cancelked three Christmas market trips in November. My sil was telling me she was talking to fil and he was crying about not seeing dd. That's what gives me the rage. I told sil it's all a front, we have offered to go up countless times, why isn't fil saying to to dh. Sil insisted fil is heartbroken. Desperately wants to see dd after 7 years, but not now, not before Christmas, not till the weather turns. Maybe some sunny day in the future, but he can't suggest when. What a crock of shit