Is this gas lighting ?

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I have suffered with insomnia for 3 years almost, since having our DS I don’t sleep great, some nights better than others. For the last week it has taken me 2-3 hours to get to sleep.
This morning my DH said oh here you go again, same thing every day - “I don’t sleep well too” / “I only have 5-6 hours sleep”/ “ I didn’t go sleep until then too” - when I know full well he is asleep all the 2-3 hours I’m trying to get to sleep. He down plays how I feel, is this gaslighting?

He said I should I get on with it. Stop being a drain, he’s got enough drain in his life already.
Just got to the doctors.
If they don’t do anything I’ll pay for sleep consultant.

No compassion. He’s quite hard to get any emotional conversation out of anyway.

I feel mentally drained and physically exhausted at the moment, hence the post. Why do I need this added attitude from
him on top of how I feel.

Not gaslighting, but he sounds unsupportive and unpleasant

Not gaslighting no, but not very nice. Although that said it is so draining to live with someone who is constantly complaining about how tired they are when there is nothing you can do to help them.

Competitive tiredness is a real thing, once one person is tired, the other is exhausted, it’s never ending.

Not gaslighting. He sounds fed up with you saying you can't sleep. Go to the pharmacist and get Nytol, the one behind the counter not the herbal one. Half of one tablet usually does the trick. Piriton does too. Not sleeping is awful but it's not a competition.

It sounds unsympathetic of him - but are you telling him every morning how long it took you to get to sleep and complaining about being tired? That’s got to get pretty wearing to listen to day after day, and him suggesting the doctor and a sleep consultant indicates that you’ve not tried anything like that to try to sort it out? I think that needs to be your focus at this point, rather than getting upset that after three years of hearing you talk about it he’s getting frustrated.

Not gaslighting, just someone being a twat.

he asks me how I slept, when he asks i tell him the truth 🤷🏼‍♀️

Thanks for assuming; but yes I have absolutely tried my numerous things and the GP

I’ve tried nytol and it did sweet nothing unfortunately
oh, I don’t think it’s a competition / it’s facts 😆 until you have a terrible sleep continuously for over a week you would understand

What time do you go to bed? Dh often complains of little sleep but I know when I have trouble sleeping he’s snoring away.

Been there. Ended up in tears of utter exhaustion over my GP who reached hurriedly for his prescription pad. I rarely need them now but it was far, far longer than a week. Nytol or Piriton do the trick these days. Not the valerian -based Nytol, that's like eating vile sweeties and about as much use

Not nice but maybe he’s had enough of feeling like he’s having broken sleep because you aren’t settled beside him or you’re going on about it without getting any help.