Tell me something lovely your OH has done for you

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Doesn't have to be today, can be big or small. Just nice to have some positivity!

I'm full of cold and feeling like crap today. I really fancied baked beans with my dinner and thought we had some in. My OH had to leave for work in 30 mins but upon seeing my disappointment drove to the shop to buy me some, dropped them off and went to work. Honestly it's the little things!!

So tell me the small (or big) acts of love from your OH 😊

He made me hot chocolate last night. And he picked my car up from the garage this week even when his work was very busy.

I took myself out for a solo lunch date yesterday to somewhere I've wanted to go for ages - when I arrived they presented me with a gift voucher to cover my meal, he'd phoned up that morning and bought it over the phone. So so sweet.

Defrosts the car for me, makes me cups of tea when he doesn't want one. Plus has arranged some lovely surprises over the years.

Mine is great, he works a lot of weekends and has days of through the week. He does loads of housework on his days off.

He makes my coffee every morning before he goes to work, (in a thermos cup so I can stay in bed until I need to get up for work).

At least one a week he pops into the bakers to buy me a cake or scone (not good for calorie counting).

He's a good one

I've told this story before, but a few years ago I was in bed with a bad virus and a temperature over 40C. He realised that the sheets would be really sweaty, so he ran a warm bath, helped me into it, and while I was in there he changed all the sheets.

Reading stories like these make me realise I'm doing the right thing by asking for separation. My husband does nothing thoughtful for me at all. Not even a cup of tea in bed. Sad really. 18 years together and I can't quite think of one thoughtful thing 😕

This thread has actually made me think about what nice things I do for my DH ... & realise he is a lot more thoughtful & kind than me ... he does more than half of cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping etc ... all the gardening, maintenance etc ... all the home admin .... DC grown up & left home so no childcare involved anymore (but he was/is the most involved & devoted dad) .. maybe I am the female equivalent of a cocklodger ...

I’m away for the weekend. I found a lovely card in my suitcase telling me how much he’ll miss me and wishing me a great time. He’s wonderful

My husband has bought me flowers twice a month since we started dating (18 years ago, married 16!). He is thoughtful, kind and in his own words 'it's my job to look after you and our son'. He can be a grumpy bear, but when life is tough, he is level headed, ogical thinking, and is my rock.

This is a nice thread. Sometimes MN is full of posts about really awful men and often posted by women with incredibly low bars.

We spent a few days away this week with 3 other couples. We’ve all been married for almost 30 years. The men are all kind, romantic and faithful husbands that put their wives first.

The good ones are not the minority.

Nice thread.

DH is very thoughtful always making sure me and DC are happy. I admit I do sometimes call him a big Fanny Annie and tell him to stop fussing round me. But I do appreciate him really.

I'm not a morning person so he'll do wee things to make my routine easier: breakfast and coffee in bed, making sure my hair bobble and slippers are there. Has my work lunch bag and coffee flask waiting with my car keys.

When he found out the DCs Gf and Bf were going to be here this weekend he got them all pumpkins and got them set up for carving. He's cooking dinner for everyone now.

We aren't big on romantic gestures but all the little things mean more to me.

😁 @Ragwort I'm with you. The balance is a bit skewiff with us too. Ladylodgers unite!

I just got a new job and have to commute by car, and live in a cold country. This week he cleaned out the garage and is going to set up heaters with timers so the car can be warmed properly in the mornings before I leave, so I don't have to go out, start the engine, and then wait 15 minutes for it to warm up enough to drive safely. He hasn't bothered before because he never minds waiting but he knows I'll mind so he's doing everything he can to make things easier for me in the mornings.

I don’t have an OH, but my male friend once offered me some orange juice when I wasn’t feeling well, then proceeded to pass it through a sieve when I told him I didn’t like the bits 😂 up there with the top nicest things someone has done for me.

A cup of tea every morning whilst I get ready for work. He also feeds the kids, unloads the dishwasher(s!), and cleans up the kitchen.

He’s a good egg.

I'm single and pretty disillusioned after leaving an abusive relationship over two years ago, but quite honestly reading this thread has given me something to aspire to, it reminded me of the way my father treated my mother and reminded me that there are some bloody good men out there...you're very lucky ladies !

I have autism and struggle with a lot of ‘life admin’ (ty MN for this phrase). Sometimes I feel useless and like he’s like my carer but he doesn’t see it like that, he feels good being able to help me and we get on extremely well together. We’re always laughing and spending time together (together 11 years now).

Marry him!

It really is the little things. He makes me tea just how I like it every morning that he gets up first. He does all the admin (tbf he enjoys it 🤷‍♀️ and he doesn't keep anything from me so it's not controlling), he organises all the maintenance for the house. Looks after the car, does the shopping, collects my meds. Yeah he's lovely and I don't tell him enough.

@lavendermouse...I put up with that treatment and worse for 16 years, I'm now on my own and doing a better job of caring about me than he ever did, life on your own with a bit of 'self care' is ten times better than life with a thoughtless sh**, stay strong 😉

At a work presentation thingy everyone had to give a speech about the most influential person in their life. DH said me. I was shocked. He talked about how I'd supported him and had faith in him after redundancy etc. I wasn't present for it, but his colleagues told me afterwards.

We've been married since 1980.

He brings me tea in bed, He looks after me when I'm ill (he is a much better nurse than I am), including helping me wash and dress when I had a complicated break and was completely immobile. He is great at presents. We don't normally do much for anniversaries (we were skint when kids were young) for our 25th wedding anniversary he brought 25 presents, each one representing each year.
He isn't perfect, but who is. He is a good egg.

Love this thread ❤️
I've not been too well mentally recently & on Thursday I said I would prepare a roast before I went to work for a few hours on Thursday, I just couldn't face it but when I walked in my husband was preparing & putting it on after he finished work. I have felt like I've let everyone down recently & this just helped to show he understood how I was feeling & I was doing my best.
He makes me a coffee every morning. If I ask him to help he will the best he can.

This is the perfect thread to show how the little things are actually the big things! There's no one saying 'he took me to Paris for the night' or 'we went to the ballet via helicopter' it's day to day kindnesses that (in my opinion) are so much more romantic than big gestures, a wholesome thread

I got stuck in some Spanx underwear my husband came home with a completely straight face & freed me from said underwear without a word. That's how I knew we could get married, we never spoke about it again! 😂