Negative social group

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My partner set up a social group on Facebook 3 years ago. I am one of the admins. The amount of hostility I have received has been ridiculous and I have done nothing wrong. I have been to other social groups and people have been so friendly. I used to admin other groups and had no issues. I don’t know if it is covid lockdowns that has made the people rude or they are just like that. I am not authoritative or aggressive and am a kind and respectful person.

A guy who attended at the beginning of the group chased a woman and then settled down with her and bought a house together. They have not been since so were only there for dating and not friendship. Last night he posted a post about having 2 spare tickets to sell to a play and he would be sitting next to the people. Another admin declined it and so did I as in the past we have declined tickets sales as the group not for selling.

This guy has sent my partner a rude and patronising long message saying he is not a business seller, thanked him for meeting the love of his life and said he has now left the group. I found it pointless it is like he wants my partner to beg him to rejoin. He has always been aggressive this guy.

My partner sent me a screenshot of that negative message not even asking how I am good morning etc. He has done this before where a group member has been negative then dumps the blame on me first thing in the morning.

I am so angry and have had enough of running this b group for him. I had 2 people giving me hassle and blaming me yesterday over something other group members did. My partner has only approved about 2 posts and 3 members in the past 12 months. He starts projects then expects others to run it for him.

Remove yourself as admin and let your partner deal with the shit?

I'm guessing this isn't the only issue with your lovely partner?

Why do this? I’d just walk away, not your issue to fix his problems for him, let him run his own group!

Facebook isn’t real life. I’d suggest disassociating from the group and focus on real life, sounds like more hassle than it’s worth, especially if it’s causing issues with your partner. Tell him to run his own group if it’s important to him. This is one issue with Facebook, people set up groups and then act like they’ve set up their own business or something, and out come the dictators and controlling behaviour. It’s not your project, let him get on with it, unless he wants to start paying you to run it

@TheQueeen Facebook is rl when these people are meeting up. I run a few social groups and a lot have made friends through them.
Op I've had a couple of these. One because I wouldn't post asking women to join a club. Basically wanting me to commit to a group someone else was starting and take responsibility for it. She blocked me on FB. I've heard she's an oddbod anyway. Another was admin and kept posting adverts for way out stuff no-one was interested in. I sent a group admin email saying can we concentrate on events. She deleted herself and blocked me. I was so sad 😂
People sometimes moan about wanting to meet people but don't start events themselves.

Delete yourself op. Your dh is a cheeky sod.

It's easy remove yourself as admin.

Genuinely I would have ignored the message from the bloke and laughed about it with your partner. It's a total non issue. Getting annoyed with it is just feeding the drama.

Setup auto approval of new members and new posts then leave the group.

I mean the guy’s left the group, so end of story right? You can just completely ignore the message and move on 🤷🏻‍♀️

If you don’t like being an admin, step down.

...why do you continue this? And allow your partner to treat you like this? You do have the option to say no to both, that group and your partner.

Now, if the issue is that you feel obliged to continue, why? What's the worst that could happen if you quit?

If the worst is your partner blowing a fuse, how bad will that get? If you're afraid of him in any way, your problem is much deeper than this FB group. Or, if you fear he'll leave you if you if you don't support him as an admin, are you really a couple at all -- he seems to expect you to cater for him, regardless what you really want.