People who’ve had an affair…

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I’ve never had one, not considering it, not suspicious of my partner…this is just pure curiosity as I’ve never been in the situation.

People who’ve had an affair (not just an ONS), when you were in the active part of the affair, did you feel any guilt or remorse? Or is it only after the fact that those feelings tend to kick in? Are you so blinded by the lust/excitement at the time that your partner doesn’t enter your head, or is it always lurking in the background.

As I said, just curiosity! ☺️

National Affairs Day is every day on MN.

Always felt guilt to an extent, but clearly thinking of myself first. I didn’t go looking for an affair, but I did enjoy it when it happened.

No guilt at all. I don’t know why, I just didn’t.

I felt extremely guilty. At the time and after.

There were moments at the start where I felt little guilt, mostly because I justified it in my head because my relationship was crumbling and I felt terribly lonely.
Then it started creeping in. I would have bad dreams sometimes and would wake up feeling like a horrible person.
At one point, very unexpectedly, my marriage took a turn for the better. My husband started working on some of his issues and I fell for him all over again.
The guilt came in very strongly at that point. It was almost unbearable. So I ended the affair, but the guilt has been very much around ever since.

I was 23 and a self-obsessed twat, so the thought that the affair could hurt my partner never entered my head. Until I confessed.

I never want to do that to another person again and I still deservedly carry that guilt, although I rarely think of it now. More than 35 years have passed since then, and no more cheating for me

No guilt during or after. He was abusive and it was all part of leading up to leaving him, gave me the confidence to finally go

I was an OW and the guy told me he felt guilty, but not enough to stop. He did eventually though.

I felt my own guilt for his wife and I'd never go down that route again.

Yes, it happened to someone I know. Her husband had a (minor) motorcycle accident. She runs to the hospital, the OW already there with a change of clothes for him. They're divorced.

I never felt guilty about cheating on my ex wife. The only time I ever felt guilty was when she found out that I was cheating on her with her best friend

Yes I felt guilty all the time.
I didn’t really enjoy the time with the other man, I didn’t want be with him.
it’s complicated.