Young girls on Instagram

[Onmywayto40x]

My partner and I have been together 15 years.. With a couple of breaks in between.... Hes 40 and seems to be following a lot of 20 something year olds on Instagram which is actually making me feel quite ill.. I suffer bad with anxiety and seeing this gets me so shaky and emotional.. Am I overreacting.. I've spoke to him about this a couple of years back but now seems to be happening again.. Advice
Please

He needs to grow up.

That’s grim, and so unattractive.

You need to speak to him again OP.
You need to tell him how it makes you feel.
If he cares about you then he might do something to change his behaviour. If he minimises things and doesn't see a problem then you will know where you stand and you need to decide what to do going forward.
Unfortunately the type of man who does this doesn't really change because it reflects his view of women in general.
Staying in a relationship where your partner's behaviour affects your mental well being is really not worth the damage it does to you.

Young women. Not young girls. Totally different

It’s still inappropriate - they are still very young women and he’s a creepy perv.

What caused the breaks? Infidelity?

He won't change, it's gross. Move on friend you deserve better

@category12 arguments.. The way he spoke to me at the time. Never cheating but bad times.. We also have two children together 13 and 6

Well a married man or man in a committed relationship looking at sexualised images of young women is inappropriate but actually looking at sexualised images of young girls is illegal.
It's a shame so many people use the word " girls" when they in fact mean "women". It's disrespectful to women but also causes real confusion in cases where it's the difference between inappropriate and illegal.

@ADHDHDHDHD ok well 16 years younger... Maybe because legal you find acceptable but I just feel it's still very odd... I'm 37 so sat there following 21 year old "men" doesn't sit well with me that's all.. Also I wouldn't like 40 year old men following my 24 year old daughter 🤮

OK maybe I should have said women but I have friends who have kids in there 20s that I call girls still my bad

I wasn't getting at you OP.
Unfortunately very many people use " girls" when they mean " women".

Sorry this is the first time using this.. Think i replied to wrong person ❤️

Gives me the ick OP, but what do you do? There's not point having a row about it because you know he'll just do it again at some point. So you either accept it or leave. Why did you have breaks before?

I think that's most men these days, whether they admit to it or not.

Major ick to the point I don't wanna touch him 🤮 I mean the way it's starting to affect me whether that be my problem I dunno I think I'm guna have to bring it up and finish it... It's the ick thing more than anything.. Hard to get away from when you feel it

Very strange.. It just wouldn't come to me to start following young men in their early 20s

It’s social media. People will follow people they have no business following. Not sure what you can do about it tbh

Not what was said at all.

Have to disagree. I don't believe that.

Who are these women? Do you mean models / “influencers” and such? People he doesn’t personally know?
what is his response when you query it?

It is totally up to you how you want to handle this OP. As you can see people have different opinion on this, and while some women would not mind at all, some totally find it creepy (myself included). I think you have to talk to him and tell him how this makes you feel. If he continues doing it, I do not see how you can continue living with him. Good luck!

No not influencers that wouldn't really bother me I don't think.. just young women who live in the same city as me..alot heavily made up with make up alot on show... Basically the opposite of how I look lol

He sounds like a bit of a letch to be honest.

You broke up previously for a good reason. Why did you get back together? Did he change, or show improvement in his behaviour? You have a couple of breaks in the relationship, was this also because of his behaviour?

Things did seem to improve yes... We broke up due to arguing all the time... But me questioning him on this the last couple of years and him deleting numerous girls from his social media and apologising etc now to see all different girls appearing again is just draining me and given me the ick..