I am the partner of one sibling who I’m pretty sure has been the spare child. I wouldn’t say he was actively abused but he has been neglected and left to get on with life. His parents don’t really have a lot of interest in him although he tries. They don’t like me. They favour the sibling massively. He moved into my house and he rented out his house. His sibling was not happy and swiftly put his house up for sale and moved into a bigger house. His sibling has to be bigger and better. I’ve felt this undercurrent of jealousy from the sibling. My partner is oblivious and he isn’t a jealous person at all, he actively wants his sibling to have bigger and better things than him. It’s odd.
I feel like I’ve walked into the sibling show where we must all bow down and adore his sibling. His parents have never said one positive word to me, even after having their grandchild. I think they would explode if they had to say something nice to me. Whereas they can’t say enough about his sibling and family.
Is this relationship just dead in the water with his family? I feel like winning the lottery so we can out do them but I know that’s childish!