What does this mean

[Inspireme2]

He says "Im just talking".

I ask what does that actually mean.
He is" here to listen".

My interpertation is he wants me to be calm and relax in heightend stress and its is not who I am.
He begun to swear and telling me I am Wrong for thinking he is not supporting me,
The call becomes heated f words
I asked why was it needed and he said i was Wrong and ringing him to be combatiive.
I was wondering throughout why he expects me to be calm and asked why
Then he throws in maybe I need to up my anxiety meds,,, i said no and i dont use alchol to solve my problems as he does.
Clunck goes the phone.
Since finding out why he has been defensive & negetive towarss his collegues he has got into serious trouble at work and has not mentioned it to me, we work in the same company.
I am now wondering if bullying and getting shitty at me is because I am open honest and wear my heart on my sleeve. Huge mind Fark.

None of that makes any sense sorry. You will need to make it a bit more clear.

He doesn't sound very nice to you - does he often speak to you like that?

The workplace issues seem to suggest he is unpleasant there as well. If I were you, I'd consider ending this relationship.

He reponds by saying "Im just talking"
If I disagree or try to explain myself or reasonings.
He wants to know my conversations, contacts I talk to, becomes nosy and annoyed now I am withholding conversations.
Im also a 'favourite' at work he says or implies.
(Jealous)

As said here, it needs a bit of clarity and context. You’ll get better (and more) responses.

The begining of my post is our phone conversation after I was stressed out.
If I am stressed out my bf supports me by saying " Im just talking" this is his new catch phrase.
Or "Its just talk".
He expects me to be relaxed or constantly happy.
( Im just talking) means he can rattle off any advice if I question it, or disagree.
-Independant mind vs Male Ego.

Does he have any good points, or is he an arsehole all the time?

You don't have to put up with his determination to be in the right all the time.Just dump him.

My husband uses the phrase "saying things" - not towards me, but in expressing that other people were talking in a situation, but what they were saying was of no importance or relevance TO the situation.

To use a similar phrase towards a partner isn't very kind. It is suggesting that what you are saying is not important?
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He sounds patronising and annoying. Why even bother trying to understand why he is deliberately trying to confuse you? Just dump him.