Should teens know you are dating?

[LemonLime9]

Should young teens know you are dating? I have been single since their father. Had a comment yesterday where someone told me teens should know you are dating and it's only small children that you don't inform. I haven't met anyone yet and didn't plan to tell them unless it became serious so not just casual dating like the general advice but someone told me young teens should know you are dating and you shouldn't "lie" to them and sneak behind their backs 😐. Thoughts? I don't think they would like the idea of me dating so wouldn't really want to tell them unless it became official but t tell them every time I've had a date which might not even lead anywhere. What do others do?

Personally, I'd let them know. Especially, if you've been single a long time. It'll allow them time to adjust to the idea that you may have someone else in your life.

My teen knows. She once said ‘Urghhh. He’s a drip he gives me the ick’ so that was that 😂😂

i kept my dating life from my teens until at a point where it was more serious.

That's what I thought was best but seems not these days 🤔

Well, my teen certainly doesn't need to know the ins and outs of all the dates I've been on, all the FWBs, ONs and situationships I've had over the last few years!!

He has known nothing about what Mum does on her weekends off until now, when I've been dating someone for several months, and have casually dropped that into the conversation.

Agree with this. I don’t see the need to be completely upfront about going on various dates.
Only when it’s going somewhere would I have that chat

Ditto to waiting till you find someone you may eventually want them to meet. I would try to avoid outright lying to them though.

ah so you use your kids to 'score' your dates... nice! the last thing your kids need is a conveyor belt of men being paraded past them, each one a potential candidate as their next 'dad'. it's all fun and games now, but futher down the line, when their behaviour starts to change and you ask why.. its because you've paraded men constantly through their lives!

At what point did she say she ‘constantly paraded men thru her life ‘
jeez judgemental much
OP . It varies by child . Some love the idea of mum having someone . Work out what’s right for your child.

A bit of an overreaction. I thought it was just a lighthearted comment.

I'd tell my adult son but with my teens I wouldn't, just because my dates don't normally make it past the second date I can't be bothered to keep mentioning it, actually I think the same will go for friends too until something well established has happened.

I talked to my older boy when I was thinking about starting dating again. I just wanted him to get his head around the idea. I didn’t give him details etc but when I met someone I really liked I did have him round relatively quickly, but very casually popping by, no big introductions/labelling. We’ve been together a few years now and DS is the one asking if we could all live together etc, which is lovely.

I think it’s a very personal choice and depends on your children’s characters, how they took the separation etc. I personally wanted my kids to understand that I had a life and things like dating could happen and it was normal.

Well I'm glad some people think the same as me. It might just end up being casual seems weird to discuss my sex life with 12/13 year olds unless I felt it was becoming serious