Cancelled his Playstation

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My partner ordered a playstation 3 with a load of games last week. The whole thing came to around £600, at a time when we are short of money and supposed to be saving for a holiday. I have asked him over and over again to cancel it but he says "you only live once" etc.

Anyway I went to bed at around 10pm last night as I was knackered. He stayed up and didn't come to bed until the early hours. He had a friend over and they were pratting around on the xbox all night.

I got up this morning after he had gone to work and there was tomato sauce all over the living room carpet, someone had drawn a smiley face with it in the middle of the room. Not entirely unusual for him unfortunaly so I just phoned him at work and asked about it and he said they'd had a few drinks but it's hardly noticable yes its so discreet that DS came down this morning and burst into fits of giggles over it.

I was angry so I cancelled the playstation and instead ordered a new carpet.

My mum as usual thinks I'm in the wrong, saying I shouldn't of cancelled his stuff and that I'm so uptight.

What would you have done? He will hit the roof when he finds out.

you are SOOOOOO in the right.

Good on ya, i say! He sounds like an idiot by the way.

Good for you. Sounds like he needs to grow up.

I think you were right to cancel the PS3 (how old is he? 12?) but rather than spend money on a new carpet, can't you clean it and save the money?

ggod luck

Sounds like you need some ground rules. Marriage is suppossed to be a partnership not a battle. Sounds as if you want a power stuggle - are you sure this is what you want? do you know how far you are prepared to go?

It sounds simple to tell him it is not acceptable to make a mess but sometimes these things are not said (rather shouted), and then the battle begins.

Were he and his friend downloading Grand Theft Auto from the internet by any chance?

My BF is obsessed with playing games and was up until 2.30 am playing it after he downloaded it. I know he likes this kind of thing, and I am ok with it so long as it doesn't disturb me and so long as it doesn't take up all his time. If he had invited friends over I would have been more pissed off because I have work today.

For the carpet thing - I am not sure. Is it his money or your money? Does it leave you short? If it's spare cash which you could spend on a play station or a carpet then it seems a little mean. What I mean is, if the money was desparately needed for essentials then I could understand you making him spend it on something more useful but it sounds to me like it was just an act of revenge.

have you done anything like this before? What happened? What do you think his reaction will be... will he laugh it off or could it cause even more rifts in your relationship?

I reckon if you're at a stage where you're treating your partner like he's a child who needs sanctions and he's showing you and your house such disrespect then you've got bigger problems than you realise.

Thats what needs to be addressed, not should he or shouldn't he have a playstation.

I agree with Talilac.

Good on you-my SIL cancelled a £10000 motorbike that her husband ordered a few years back. She was livid about it and I didn't blame her in the slightest.

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Why does he need a playstation if he already has an xbox (I know nothing about these things but aren't they just different manufacturers of a similar product?)

He does sound puerile but it is his house too, is he not allowed to have some fun with his mates. Surely tomato sauce will clean out of a carpet?

How old is he? 12?

He sounds like a teenager. Or a prat.

You were in the right.

He does sound puerile but it is his house too, is he not allowed to have some fun with his mates

Blimey - I must be an uptight cow to think this is unacceptable!

Do what you like to the carpet but you better bloody well clean it up and NOT leave it and swan off to work!

I'm astonished! Drawing on the carpet in tomato ketchup would send me absolutely berserk. (Not berserk enough to clean it, mind you....)

Why would anyone do such a thing? It's childish and not in a good way. That would annoy me far more than the Playstation.

How old is he? How old is his mate?

To remove ketchup from the carpet, dab up as much as possible with paper towels. Spray the residue sparingly with shaving foam, wipe away with a damp cloth, and the ketchup will come away with the foam.

If my hubby did it I would laugh but then we have a carpet cleaner and he would't do it in the first place. If you are short of money I wouldn't be ordering a new carpet either when it is so easy to clean it. You both need to talk. A lot.

Do grown men really draw on the carpet with ketchup? Really?

YA so NBU

I'm still about the ketchup smiley.

I must admit it is rather odd drawing on the carpet with ketchup but then people do odd things when they are pissed don't they?

Cancelling the playstation order because you have no money, but then spending money unnecessarily on a new carpet to make a point?

The reason I said I would laugh is because right now we are going through something bloody awful so I have more important things to worry about. Clearly it isn't something a grown man should do.

OP - Note I have posted how to clean it off in my post at 11:53.

I am attracted to someone (live with someone) who has every game consol going. We're different, I don't get it , but then he doesn't get my Mumsnet obsession either. Give him a break. Just because he has computer games doesn't make him retarded or childish.

Tomato sauce thing was a bit stupid but let's not rip him to shreds!

Up late having a few drinks with a mate. OK.

Coming downstairs in morning to find empty beer cans and crisp packets lying around. OK.

Drawing on carpet in ketchup?????????? Sorry but totally juvenile.

Would I cancel playstation and order a new carpet instead? Not sure. Possibly if I was also feeling peeved that DH was spending money we could not really afford on something for him when we were trying to save for a family holiday.

Spending £600 on things you don't need when you're short of money is irresponsible. No matter what it's spent on - games console or new carpet.