Who's in the wrong?

[ThisTaupeBee]

Me and my co parent were going to take our baby out today for a few hours together

The plan was for him to come to my home at 12 o'clock afternoon and then the 3 of us head off

I never had any messages off him all morning, I let it get to 12 o'clock then wrote one final message saying "I guess we aren't going out then"

Me and my baby ended up falling asleep until 2 o'clock in the afternoon, I woke up to knocking on my door and lots of missed calls off him

He was at my door and said "are we still going out then" by this point I wasn't in the mood to go out. He wouldn't leave my door step for ages just nagging to go out and do somthing

He finally left and I've had lots of messages off him, not exactly abusive but quite aggressive, telling me I take the p* and I made him come all the way to my home in a taxi just to let him down on plans

I do feel kind of bad, but don't understand why he would STILL turn up 2 hours late expecting the plan to still be on. I could of made new plans and gone out. And he turned up expecting everything to still be on

(I personally feel like he had been drinking last night and that's why he didn't reply all morning. He's usually an early bird)

You both sound fairly unreasonable, and if you are going to co-parent you'll need to be a bit more co-operative with each other.

He turned up late - but sending one passive aggressive message and then falling asleep, missing loads of messages and finally answering your door but refusing to go out doesn't sound great.

Why didn't you go out at 2pm? Were you just being arsey cos he was late?

1 I wasn't ready at all
2 I wasn't in the mood after him not answering all morning and letting me know if plans were still on

You both sound childish and ultimately it was only DC who lost out.

You both sound childish. Put your Dc first.

I understand it sounds childish but why on earth would I want to spend the day with someone who have just sent me 30 aggressive text messages

The baby is 9 months old, she's unaware of any of this including the plan

You w already split up and the child is only a baby?

Neither of you sound pleasant and both of you need to start acting maturely unless you want your child to grow up with two immature fools as parents.

Me and my co parent

You mean your ex

It's not about you, it's about the child.

Doesn't matter if they are 9 months or 9 years, refusing to do things that are for the benefit of the child is unfair.

Why couldn't he take baby out for a walk on his own?

I offered that and he still wasn't interested, he was more interested in sending me aggressive messages

So when he came round, you refused to go out, said he could take baby alone and he refused?

You both need to learn how to co parent better.

That's right, I said I'm not in the mood to go to the place we were ment to be going but your more than welcome to have baby for few hours, and he turned that down

Co- parenting in the way you are suggesting with days out etc means you have to be able to get along.
Was this a one off or is he regularly unreliable? Context is important here I think.

'I said I'm not in the mood'

You are now a parent. There will be lots of things you don't feel in the mood for but have to suck it up and get on with it.

I understand now why you and your ex are not together as BOTH of you are self centred.

At the moment you're both point scoring and playing silly tit for tat games.

You really do need to grow up, BOTH of you.