Friend being aggressive

[Motylog]

Last night a friend asked how I got on at the gym. She said she misses going because of her feet as it is painful, she has plantar fasciitis. I said I hope it eases soon. She then laid into me saying I should not say that and it will never get better and kept having a go at me for thinking positive. I feel she has no respect as I would not dream of having a go at my friends.

I am really annoyed because I know a few people who have had plantar fasciitis and they have resolved it through their hard work and following doctor’s recommendations. She has had this issue for 2 years but won’t do physio exercises or lose weight as the doctor recommended as she says she keeps meaning to do it.

I am annoyed she thinks it is ok to chew my ear off about this foot issue she does nothing to resolve and then have a go at me for saying I should not say it will ease as she believes it will never go. She won’t even bother to help herself.

" She has had this issue for 2 years but won’t do physio exercises or lose weight as the doctor recommended as she says she keeps meaning to do it."

So in other words, your "friend" is a self absorbed, self pitying cunt?

I'd be giving the widest berth fucking possible and stay out of her orbit and let her wallow in her own misery.

Life is too short for assholes like this. Block and move on.

Time to step away from this friendship.

She was rude to you and won’t help herself. Is she often like this?

Time to make her an ex-friend then.

Blocking seems a bit drastic for a one off rant about the pain they've experienced for 2 years. "I'm sorry about the chronic pain but please don't speak to me like that again as it is not nice to be on the receiving end of your frustrations."
Then reorient to a happier topic?

She can be like that. Quite selfish at times and disagreeable. At one point she tried to disagree with everything so I kept my distance. Not so bad now but I hate rudeness.

Before you replied I said to her I won’t discuss the foot issue with her again as I don’t want to be snapped at and was trying to be supportive. She did apologise.

She always falls out with friends and then contacts the police is she feels someone has overstepped the mark saying they are harassing her with messages. She even got one person cautioned for harassment. She is the type who has outright said if someone upsets her she won’t discuss it and blocks them. She does not understand they message her to find out what the problem is as she don’t reply then she contacts the police!

Good grief. All the more reason to consider her as a former friend then.

She sounds like hard work OP - you're walking on eggshells. She's not really a friend is she? You're just someone she hasn't fallen out with yet. Life is far too short to spend time with people who moan and who pull you down.

I know, it is exhausting having to watch what you say and I am a polite person who respects people.

She contacts the police?

She sounds like she has serious issues and pf is the least of them.

She's an emotional vampire. Noting positive about her and I'm sure you feel drained after being with her.

Disappear from her life.

The police? It sounds as though there are quite serious issues at play going by her behaviour so I may not say cut her off completely as long as she contacts you and is nice, but I'd be keep her very much at arm's length.

She’s got more issues than her feet.
I have a long term condition and now and again I can get a bit touchy but that’s with my OP as we live together not my friends.
This lady has a condition which could be helped with some measures but for her she doesn’t want to even try. I have learned that hiding behind any condition and using it as a shield keeps you stuck.
I can also say that sometimes I do feel a little envious of people more able-bodied. I am not jealous, I don’t want to take anything away from them, but it is hard when you see people enjoy what you used to.
But again I keep these feelings to myself and let them pass. I do not vocalise them to any friend as that’s not fair on them.
This person sounds mentally unstable. She’s not feeling a bit low because she can’t go the gym, she’s seriously mentally unwell to be ringing the police on friends because she’s taken a slight over something small.
I feel for her a bit because where she is can be very isolating, but she’s punishing people and pushing them away. With support and help from her friends she could have a much better life.
But sadly OP she’s dug herself into a position that she won’t move from. Honestly, I’d give her a wide berth for a while.
You are not an emotional battering ram.

In this case, absolutely valid point

Good grief I'd be dropping this friendship pronto !

I know multiple people who have had PF and now exercise regularly and pain free due to following physios advice and changing their footwear.

You conversation was completely innocuous and there was no need for her to react the way she did.

Sounds like she overreacts on a regular basis though 🤷‍♀️

Woah, the police?! Run (haa haa sorry bad joke!!).