Just recently, since an argument with my partner weeks ago things seem to have been going downhill. I’m kind of to blame for this as I’m pretty hurt and I can feel that I’ve cooled off toward him, I’d hoped things would get back to normal in a couple of weeks but now I’m not so sure as I’ve noticed most interactions we have I come away feeling annoyed, dismissed or confused. I understand he’s hurt that I’ve cooled off and there hasn’t been any physical affection between us so he feels rejected. Started calling me uptight. But I can’t get back to the way I was with him because of the interactions.
The other day I asked if later on in the day he could help me carry this heavy box from my car (it had been there for weeks and I’d already asked a few times before) he said ‘maybe’, I said oh ok, if you don’t want to I can ask someone else, he said maybe, maybe not. Very vague. He then did it without me knowing then had a go at me hours later and called me ungrateful because I didn’t notice, even though the box was now in the garage and I hadn’t been in there. Told him this but he thinks I’m lying. Asked does he fancy going out for something to eat at the weekend, maybe. I said well I could do with knowing so I can plan, he said the same thing, maybe we will, maybe we won’t.
His son goes to rugby and it’s been heavy rain here, I asked whether the match was still on and he asked me, why would it be cancelled? I said some other games have been cancelled because of the rain and he rants at me for a good few minutes stating all the reasons it hasn’t and won’t be cancelled as though it was a stupid thing for me to ask.
Sounds a bit daft now I’m writing it down but it’s exhausting, I’m just trying to get things back to normal and every interaction leaves me mentally tired wondering how it got from a simple question to me feeling like a child being told off. I come away feeling shit. Not sure how to deal with it, any advice would be great as I’ve tried all I can think of and it isn’t getting any better!