Ive just broken up with my ex, we have a 5 week old baby. We were together 2 years but most of it was long distance, we didn't move in together until I was in the third trimester of pregnancy which I regret now because Ive realised I didn't know him as well as I thought I did. He lied to me several times during my pregnancy including twice about drugs. I tried to make things work after that but I never could trust him again, he also was unhelpful during the last few weeks of my pregnancy when I could barely walk as I had bad pelvic girdle pain, I was still doing all of the housework myself.
Once baby was born he wasn't much more helpful, he did the washing up most days and the laundry sometimes and that was it. I couldn't trust him to look after the baby after his lies plus some other stuff like he is very clumsy, forgetful and absent minded. So he spent his paternity leave just playing computer games.
After all that I felt very resentful and couldn't stand to be around him anymore and we broke up, he moved out this week to a flat nearby. We agreed he would come round several times a week to see the baby and he came round this evening and basically spent the entire time talking about our relationship and how much he misses me and how depressed he is blah blah, also made a few nasty comments like that he thinks I should have stayed with him even though he lied because single mothers are bad for society. I told him several times to leave and he kept saying okay yeah I'm being a dick ill leave but then he stayed even longer. I don't need this stress but I'm not sure what to do as I don't feel like I can stop him coming to see the baby and i'm not willing to let him see her without me supervising as I don't trust him.