Anyone tips on how to deal with pass remarkable family member?

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My DM and I are close and she helps me out a lot with childcare but my god is she pass remarkable. Comments on everyone and everything, not always critically but just annoyingly. For example today my son told her he was going to buy a new Xbox game with his birthday money as his birthday was yesterday, Dm comments to me “DS said that he’s buying another game, did he not get enough this week”…I don’t know why it fills me with rage inside because it’s his birthday money and he can buy another game if he wants? She came to see my other sons football match at the weekend and has commented to me and to my father about how all the other kids were wearing certain football boots and my son had different ones… I genuinely don’t know why she is so concerned about any of these things??
any advice would be great

That is a very common phrase in Ireland. It is a great phrase.

I agree with pps who suggest just letting it hang in the air and ignore. Just don't let her remarks get into your head. Put up a mental shield where you pay them no attention (or pay them no mind to use another Irish phrase from my youth)

DM: Is he really getting another game?
You: Yeah, hey what did you think about Camilla's outfit getting out of the plane
DM: didn't he get a game last week
You: I loved the colour myself.

I’m Scottish didn’t realise it wasn’t a common phrase lol, I’ve no advice, my dad does it too I just try to ignore it

But surely if it means that then it would be the subject of their comments that were 'pass remarkable' to the person saying it?
I want to understand the phrase but it sounds kind of weird to me. I guess it's good to learn new phrases!
But the person sounds like an idiot anyway. I would just say something like 'oh really, how interesting'. Then totally change the subject.

Oooo, my mum was like that too, and now i have a name for it - thanks! I ignored the remark and changed the subject every time, and it worked! She’s much better behaved now (hopefully also happier- nothing like a whinge to bring you down)

I have never heard the phrase but its great!

It would apply to my mum. Always, always has to comment on things but not necessarily negatively, but in a way that I just know she thinks something is odd/not what she'd do/something different to her world view. Usually critical of me though! Once I learned I could briefly acknowledge it then change the subject I felt much better around her.

It's not a long thread...

I’ve heard this saying loads, I think it’s a Merseyside or Northwest thing to say. I love it too 🙂

Never heard of the phrase but now it's been explained, my mum does it all the time.

Used all the time in the Republic of Ireland.

Irish here (south) and it's a very normal phrase.
My mother is very pass remarkable . Like, nothing good to say about someone so says something critical. She will say things like did she not look in the mirror before she came out

It sounds weird to us that don't know the phrase, because grammatically it doesn't make sense -as you say the person passing comment isn't remarkable.

My northern Irish friend favourite saying is "sure I'd pass no remark". Which pisses me off because she commentates on every little bloody thing.

I'm Scottish but haven't ever heard it used there. It makes total sense though - someone who just can't stop passing comment (usually negative) on anything and everything that comes to their attention. i've got an aunt like that - every little thing gets noticed, mentioned, pointed out, commented on.

the person passing comment isn't remarkable. Ah this makes sense. I was thinking it meant the person feels compelled to pass on remarks? But your version makes more sense.

It's,absolutely about them getting a reaction, seeing the other person annoyed, flustered etc
It's a habit of people with poor self esteem.
They like to feel control over others and it is a form of baiting.
I've heard it likened to throwing cheese to a mouse.
Don't take the cheese ...

Pause, count to 5, neutral phrase
They don't get their reaction
Do it enough times and they will move onto someone else

Had to Google it! Scottish and Irish English etymology. Had to do it to understand the post! Great phrase!

Never heard that phrase before but love it!
OP, let her waffle on, no need to explain yourself apart from a mild reply or a yes, no, maybe or not sure. Then change the subject. She's looking for a reaction so don't give her one.

I am Scottish and I have never heard anyone use that phrase. Where is Scotland are you?

It’s used in Glasgow

@ShortColdandGrey I’m from the east of Scotland (Dundee / Perth) and have never heard it. I’m guessing it has come over from Ireland to the west coast.

I know someone like this. In their case it’s harmless they just feel they have to fill any second of silence with random drivel.

I am in the exact same area as you. So, yes it must be a West Coast saying.

That makes sense