I Kissed another boy, please help!

[TheSillyAnt]

hi everyone,
i’m 17 I’ve been with this boy for 3 years and I did something super stupid a few weeks ago.
i got really drunk and made a stupid decision as a teenager does and I kissed another boy!! Our relationship has gone down hill recently I have been feeling like he hasn’t really been paying much attention to me etc , he’s more about the drinking life with his pals, which is understandable we are both young. I genuinely regret this so much to the point I can’t sleep nor eat. This boy has literally helped me through so much and ive done the same for him, I feel like I’ve completely tossed everything up. Do I just live with the guilt and not hurt him as my punishment and risk him finding out down the line?? I know he would end it with me straight away, that’s what’s putting me off telling him as I know it was a drunk mistake and would NEVER happen ever ever again. Please help 🥹

Don’t drink so much that you don’t know what you’re doing.

You’re 17. You’ve been in a relationship since you were 14. Be kind to yourself.

Do the right thing and break up with him. Take some time off from relationships. It’s really not cool to be kissing other guys.

I wouldn't stress about it, perhaps it's sign you are growing out of that relationship but you are just used to being with him out of habit? Him pulling back, perhaps he's feeling the same.

thanks guys, I think I’m just pressuring myself it feels like I’ve got 5 kids, a house and a dog with this man for god sake

Oh bless you, a lot of us have done things like that at 17 - me included. It's not great, but not life and death - don't beat yourself up about it

Do you still want to be with him or is it time for a break?
The way you are both behaving makes me wonder if you are still together more out of habit that really wanting to be...

Your relationship has gone done hill, you've been together 3 years and you're only 17. I think this kiss is telling you it's time to end things and move on. Don't tell him what happened just say you feel like things have changed and the relationship isn't working for you any more.

As an "old lady" of 43, 17 is the time of your life to kiss lots of boys, have fun, enjoy being young. Get to know yourself and what you want.
There's plenty of time for serious relationships in a few years.
This relationship has probably come to a natural end and that's fine.

Sounds like an old 'Jackie' or 'Just Seventeen' problem page post.

Almost word for word what I was going to say. I'm 50 and yes, 17 is the time to kiss the boys. Plenty of time to settle down later. But it's not great to cheat so gently let your boyfriend down now and be on your way.

Good grief, who wants to be in a steady relationship at 17? Waaaaaaay to young! Okay I'm ancient, but ......get ready for the patronising...... you'll change so much between now and 21, get your head down, get studying / apprenticeship done, get a good career under your belt, travel if you can (and you want to), enjoy the single life for a few more years (because once it's gone, you'll miss it) and then look to settle, in the meantime kiss the boys and have fun...but keep safe....okay motherly lecture over!

Update: he found out and now we are finished, his family has blocked me and everything I feel terrible. He then tried to get with my best friend!

This sounds awful, but that’s actually not a bad result. This relationship does not sound right for either of you and now is your time to be free and enjoy your teenage years.

You're 17 with your whole life, and many other good relationships, ahead of you. Let this go and move on.