What to do when the OW is remorseless, callous and such a dam liar?

[WileECoyote]

DW being me!

To cut a long, long, story short;
exP had ridiculous fling beginning when I was 8 months pg.
I found out due to vids of them, um...at it, on his phone, the day bofore I birthed our baby.
Spent morning before baby born in local GUM clinic.
Found out when baby was four days old that he'd caught nasty, nasty STI from Ow, given it to me.
Found out when baby was ten days old that it had been caught by baby at birth.
Baby subjected to much prodding, poking and four weeks of treatment to save sight and life.
Due to having STI at time of birth, have been informed by consultant that FT's probably damaged beyond repair within 7 days of birth.

Have left exP, have refused to reinstate relationship, he's devastated and so am I.

Absolutely furious at times that Ow appears to think it's funny to rub my nose in this. Have not approached her at all, apart from an initial phone call. Then txt to make her aware of STI. Just steered clear and didn't want to get into any of this with her on any level, preferring to ignore her very existance.

All the while she claims innocence in public, whilst sending me texts that confirm she knew all along about me, our family, our unborn child.

Was approached by her recently while on a night out with friends, was chatting alone with exP outside pub when she approached me with 5 of her friends behind her and said 'What's wrong with you then? What's your problem?'. I nutted her. So absolutely out of character but I was aware of a threat, that topped by her sheer blinding cheek (aided by several years of martial arts training) I nutted her.

Cue texts from her friends if I walk past the shop she works in telling me not to. Cue me entering shop the next time I'm in town, etc, etc.

I need to rise above it all, I know. I do not want to be involved with someone I consider to be mere scum, at all. She is not the type of person I would ever invite into my life and I'm so furious that she is on even the perimeter of it.

Help me avoid responding to all of this rubbish! I have a much loved family to care for and a whole life to live. Yet...

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bare facts not bear facts

iCod, I'm a nutter, I think

An announcement in the name of public service has been a temptation. As it goes, although I nutted her in complete silence and with absolute decorum (apart from the obvious), my calm did not hold out beyond the point when one of her misguided friends made a futile and ignorant attempt to jump (verbally) to her defence. I should imagine that a fair few people are now aware of the STI and its host.

Thanks all for encouragement towards positivity and reassurance that walking away with head held high really is the worthwhile option!

I take it your dp has dumped her and she knows he wants to come home to you. That's what her big hairy problem is - she lost the fight, and she knows it. Half the excitement is making the man choose the OW over his DW. That's a massive ego-boosting rush. But in the end she was let down, so now you have to pay.

Go and headbutt her again.... I'm just kidding, but good on you for doing it the first time. Bet she didn't feel half so bloody big and clever after that.

Sorry to hear your going through this. Fair fucks to you for nutting her. I wish I had of done that!

Scumbag bitch!

Wish I had thought of that I meant!

WileECoyote, what an awful story. So sorry you're having to cope with all this. How is your baby?

I wish I'd have been big enough. I really am a 'little' woman, and OW is bigger than xh. It's so not fair.

I hope there won't be any comebacks for you after the nutting, though, WEC.

what a nasty vindictive friend bitch

Kudos to you for giving her a nutting.

Hope you dump the pair of them

Agree with annie (thanks for explaining FT) that in this circumstance it was warranted.

Thank you.

My baby is doing fine now. Had a wobble a few weeks ago when it looked as though the eye infection may have recurred but thankfully it hadn't. We've made it past the danger period for infection related pneumonia too. A breeze as far as babies go, rarely a cry and a placid, docile, smiley, inquisitive nature that breaks my heart!

littlewoman, if you saw the size of me! I'm not exactly short though definately couldn't be regarded as tall but I'm built like a thread of cotton

What a horrible, horrible situation. You know yourself that violence isn't the answer, but I suspect you were bottling up so much anger you just snapped. Poor you. I probably would have done the same. 'You can only push people so far' and all that.

Leave that nasty incident behind you, now, though. She sounds like a vile person and your husband is a dickhead for jeopardising so much for so, so little. Moving on, into a future you can be happy with, is paramount now. At the risk of sounding extremely patronising - have you thought about having counselling? You must be feeling deeply betrayed. It would be a shame to let those feelings spoil things for you and your baby. You deserve to be happy.

what a shitty slut!! i just wanted to ask did your LO recover fully? i think you should of broken her face....personally.... and i think you did the right thing beating the cow!!

I'm built like that too, WEC, so kudos to you for not taking her nonsense.

Glad baby is now doing well. A small (well, big really) relief, in the midst of all this mess.

Glad your baby is well, sorry you have had to deal with such an unpleasant situation. But further retaliation will only make you feel worse, so leave it be and ignore, ignore, ignore. Keep your XP at more than arms' length as well ( you may have to have contact with regard to access) because no matter who or what this girl is, she is not the one who broke a promise to you, she didn't cheat on you. She might be an ignorant slag, she might be a desperate anguished woman who your XP has led on and lied to. WHatever, your priorities are your own wellbeing and that of your DC.

Let's review the evidence:

• Child has STI, and is permanently damaged.
• STI came from husband
• Husband had sex with her, as per texts.

Get a lawyer. Sue her. At least talk to one and review your options.

Thankfully, due to anti B's my babys eyes appear to have suffered no permanent damage, we have a final opthalmologist appointment to confirm this in two or three months time and is completely clear of the STI, Toad. It's my FT's that are probably damaged, I'm aware it's not particularly clear in the first post, sorry. To be honest, after all of this I'm not sure I'll trust anyone enough again to have children with them anyway! But would have liked the choice.