Rude to buy people clothes for Christmas?

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My dm always buys people clothes/pjs/dressing gowns for Christmas. She guesses sizes, doesn't ask. Last year I had recently given birth and she bought me everything in Large and 14-16. I would have been medium really. Also she would previously buy my aunts sizes XL every year. Eventually they told her they won't be buying any gifts anymore for Christmas, they didn't give a reason but I assume they were insulted by her buying them enormous sizes. Do you think it's rude to buy people items of clothing without asking their size? It makes me feel very self conscious with her being so flippant about it. Makes me feel like she's looking at my body and judging my weight. Tbh it's hurtful. Anyone else feel the same?

I see your point. One of my kids bought me a clothing gift for Christmas but wisely asked my size so I didn’t have the hassle of exchanging it for the right size.

My DM does this. I hate it. Every year I get at least one garment - often PJs as well as a top or skirt. She has never, ever bought me anything that fitted, or that I actually liked. I've spent years saying, 'Please don't buy me stuff to wear' but she just ignores it.

I've just got blatantly rude over the last few years because it pisses me off so much. Now I open size 12/14 pjs (I'm a size 22) and say, 'They're no use. They're the wrong size. Do you want them back, or shall I take them to a charity shop?'

She's spent my whole life doing this. I can't be bothered to pretend I want her shit gifts any longer. It emphasises how little she knows about me, how little she cares and how little fucking effort she can be arsed to put into choosing a gift.

i buy the kids and partners socks, sometimes daughter gets jamas if she asks but i wouldnt buy other things unless the kids show me specific items
what one person thinks is ok is another's horror

I normally end up wearing them once so she sees and then they go in the charity bag anyway. Seems to go over her head that they are too big!

You've kind of prolonged this issue by being excessively polite and going to the lengths of wearing them so she can see.

You should have just said, "thanks mum, lovely thought, but I'm afraid the size is wrong for me - can I have the receipt so I can get it changed? I like the colour (or some other feature of the garment) 'though." Your classic shit sandwich approach.

If she just gets feedback that it's great and you're wearing it, she thinks she's done well.

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I’m sorry but if you feel insulted if someone buys you something a size too big or too small, then I think it’s a You problem tbh.

I mean, even when I’m buying clothes for myself, I sometimes have to adjust according to the brand or the shape of the clothes! Not everything I own is the same size.
So I’m a bit at loss as to why it would say anything about you.

Rather it seems you feel that your size says something about you - you’ve lost weight but someone’s given you the same size - they still you as if you were the same, heavier, size. Bad!! You are ‘better’ now that you’ve lost weight.
Someone gives you a size too big. They see you as being big! Very bad!
Im personally struggling to understand that tbh.