My ex and I were on and off for a number of years, there were big red flags about our compatibility and I tried to end it several times... he would always guilt trip me back into it with fake promises etc. The last time i fell for it we moved in together, and our lives became so intertwined that I felt trapped. Instead of recognising this and walking away, I stayed put and tried to fix it because I was scared of starting over - he had effected my self esteem to the point that I didn't realise I was worthy of anything good. We then got engaged and I tried to plan a dream wedding in hope that that would fix things and I would feel happy, which then ended with him calling it all off. I was extremely shocked as I had completely resigned myself to this being the way it had to be, and felt so humiliated about letting my friends/family and myself down, but then very quickly felt relief. I met someone new quite quickly (without the intention of moving on so soon!) and I'm the happiest I've ever been, I didn't know compatibility or happiness like this was possible. We went on a date a month after my breakup, and took another 3 months before getting into a relationship. Why is it that I feel guilty and worry so much that people are judging and misunderstanding me? Everyone always assumes it's a rebound but really I wasn't happy in my last relationship, I was just too scared to do anything about it? The biggest issue for me was the lack of self esteem as that is what kept me in the unhappy relationship, and I am still working on that in therapy. Any advice to make me feel better, and less judged would be amazing...