Hi,
Im currently seeking help for retroactive jealousy that has caused my relationship to breakdown massively!
whilst I know that the issues are mine all mine I can’t help but feel torn between wether the issues are all mine or need to be shared somehow. To give content when I met my partner of 8 years now and we have the normal past conversation he volunteered information about his past saying that he had 1 previous relationship with a women for 2/3 years when he was around 21. He admitted that he was young and wasn’t the greatest partner to her because he didn’t want to be with her he said he left several times but she would beg for him back they eventually had a child so he tried to make it work for the child’s sake but it was misery and he just couldn’t be with her. Fast forward some years with me his family would make comments on their relationship alluding to the fact he really loved her and was happy. He spent nearly 7 years convincing me he hadn’t lied or played down thier relationship. Today he admitted that he did love her she left him ect and he did try harder to fight for their relationship then he made out. He said he didn’t want to tell me that when we met because he was scared I would be jealous or think he had emotional baggage ??? Whilst I do suffer retroactive jealousy I can rationalise that he may have loved someone before me as did I. My jealousy had become worse since finding out for 8 years he has lied. Isit relevant probably not but am I struggling yes massively