Backstory: my mum met my step dad when I was 9, they married when I was 10 and he has been the most wonderful, kind step father to me. I call him dad and have done since they were married. Prior to their meeting, my mum had lots of boyfriends and fiancées after she and my biological dad divorced when I was 4. My mum has always been a difficult person; I suspect she has a personality disorder of some type. She can be very aggressive & angry and is prone to lying to get her way. She can also be kind, but you never know when she’s going to blow.
She and my (step)dad have always had a difficult relationship; she’s always unhappy with him, and after nearly 30 years, decided to separate last year. It was horrific and she was vile to me in the process. She then got back with him and they went on to separate for a 2nd time this July. There’s much more to it, but I won’t go into that.
She has already met a new man, and they are talking about moving in together. I’m happy for her, but it feels very quick. She’s already met his children (they are the same age and younger than my own children 😬). Is it normal to feel a bit weird when your parent meets a new partner? I can’t tell if her previous behaviour is clouding my judgement, but when I’ve tried to explain I’m happy for her, but simultaneously finding it weird, she looks at me like I’m crazy and gets all defensive.
Edited to add: my parents aren’t actually even divorced yet…it’s still going through.