Hello everyone,
I’m writing this post hoping for some kind of comfort. I constantly feel lost. I’ve reached a point where I don’t know what to do.
I’ll try to make it short. My husband (36 years old) doesn’t like to have sex often. Once a month is enough for him, and if I try more than once a month, he loses his erection.
Two months ago, we were at a bar, and I asked him to us to leave (to go back to the hotel where we were staying) so we could be intimate. He started getting nervous, asking why I was bringing up that topic and saying that I was ruining the night and that I should say when I wanna have sex, that I just go for it. We fought and almost broke up that day. Since then, we haven’t had sex—it’s been two months (we’ve been arguing a lot during this time though). This week, I tried initiating something for three days in a row, and he rejected me, saying he was tired. I asked to see his testosterone test results (which he claims are fine), but he didn’t want to show them.
To sum it up, he’s always tired! We don’t have sex when we go to spas, when we travel, or even at home. I believe his testosterone is low, and he may be embarrassed. He used to watch porn and use nicotine, but he stopped a year ago.
I’m very frustrated. Where is all this tiredness coming from? I’m left with only one conclusion: low testosterone.
He also says that because we fight a lot, he doesn’t feel like having sex with me.
We have been married for 4 years and I am 28yo.
Thank you all for any kind of help.