Hi there,
I am 30 soon and am planning to go back to my home town and celebrate bday with all friends and family. Trouble is, my mum has just had a hysterectomy and feels it is too much dh,ds and I staying at hers, especially after ds and I went up 2 weekends ago and it was a disaster as ds was not happy, having tantrums etc as bored/missing his daddy/his nana was ill etc.
Dh is in navy and away alot at moment so really wants to spend bday with me but My mum/sister and friends would prefer it if it was just me and want me to "lose the baggage" really.
I find this hurtful and want to spend my bday with everyone. I love my dh and ds and feel it is a bit controlling and conditional to push them away. I do however understand that it is alot for my mum, especially after dh suggest she babysit ds- she isn't up to it at all understandably!
My compromise is day off with dh on the friday, have meal etc and nice day just 2 of u then go to mums on sat, go out with friends on sun and get wasted and return on bank holiday monday but am I giving in too easily to everyones demands and dh is not really happy with this option but will look after ds so I can have a nice time. Whose needs to I put first??