Hi all, I know this is a first post but please take it for what it is, I have been struggling with something for a little while and I feel I need to ask for opinion, or at least get it out there which may help me
i have been with my wife for 23 years now, married 19
We are really close, always have been, our sex life has always been good
sorry I don’t want to just go around the houses and ramble so I’ll say it outright..
so by chance a few years ago a found out she had been doing things solo, I wasn’t upset or anything, quite the opposite but when I asked her she went quiet and didn’t want to talk about it but said she didn’t often at all (she had a job at that point where she was away a couple of nights a week most weeks)
I respected that and never pushed it but long story short I’ve been aware she has been doing it let’s say far more than “not often at all”
now because I’ve respected her and not asked I’ll be honest it’s on my mind, daft I know but there you go
so if I’m honest I just want (no details) honest opinions
am I daft to worry about it, or worry is the wrong word, but wonder about it and why it’s increased?
sorry I don’t want to add detail and come across like it’s not genuine
if anyone wants any specific I’m more than happy to add context but I don’t want to say anything that’s taken the wrong way
any advice would be appreciated