The heading says it all really.
Have had a rocky relationship with my husband for several years now having been together for ten years plus.
A few years ago when I decided we probably needed to separate after finding out he’d lied, he somehow managed to read my emails and texts. No idea how he actually managed to do this.
I was trying to do something on my phone a few nights ago and my husband said he could help so I gave it to him for a few minutes. When I went up to bed I realised all of my texts to and from him had been deleted. When he came to bed I asked him about this and he denied it, said I was paranoid and to be careful of what I was accusing him of. The next morning I went on my laptop and retrieved the deleted messages to find he had gone into my ‘notes’ on iPhone, forwarded them to himself from my phone and then deleted all the texts. He had also wiped completely all of my ‘notes’ and then even deleted them from the deleted folder so they have permanently gone.
These notes were a bit like a diary - where I would mainly down things he had done that had upset me or things I was upset about generally. He can be very difficult to live with so this is a bit of an outlet for me I suppose. I don’t know what I am more upset about - that he has read these and it obviously must be hurtful for him or that he has invaded my privacy, deleted what’s sort of like a diary and then lied about it.
We haven’t spoken for two days now. I don’t really know what to do.