Rude co worker or am I wrong

[ThisTaupeBee]

So I'm a 29 year old female

Co worker is early 50s female

In work today co worker said to me "you look like you've lost weight"

I said "oh do i?"

She then looked at me with a really weird face and said "um THANKYOU!"

it was such a strange interaction

By the way I'm 8 & a half stone

1. I don't need to be told when to say thankyou.
2. being told I've lost weight might not be a compliment to me, therefore I wouldn't say thankyou.

I feel like she really spoke down to me just then.

Do anyone else think she was rude or am I over reacting. She gave me the impression that i was the one that was rude. I mean it hasn't ruined my day, but what an odd interaction from an older woman

She’s rude I wouldn’t have thanked her either. If it’s just a one off though I’d let it go. Maybe if she has weight issues and diets frequently she might be acting on the false belief that being told you’ve lost weight is the height of compliments.

I think she was rude. And I would think the same as you did. But also it's not worth your energy.

She was rude to mention your weight.
She was wrong to assume other people would automatically take it as a compliment.
She was downright odd to demand thanks.
She sounds socially inept.

Yep odd co-worker. I would say thank you if someone said you look good / well/ like your shoes. Not if the made personal comments on weight etc.

She's a twat , keep your distance.

It seems a bit weird. Unless someone was vocal about dieting/using jabs/wanting to lose weight then I don't think it's very polite to mention such things. Nobody wants to feel like their bodies are being scrutinised.
I'd take it as a bit of a rude one off. Unless she's constantly making you feel uneasy and uncomfortable? Even then I'm not sure what you could say. Other than 'its impolite to talk about other people's weight'. Then change the subject.

You should have said
Thank you for what? Making personal comments?

She meant it as a compliment but it is seen as inappropriate now, especially to younger people, to mention weight at all. Especially in a professional setting.

When I was 18/19 I had a temp office job and the other women were all 50 plus. All we talked about was weight and Slimming World and low cal snacks and low cal hot choc…. It consumed them!

Rude to comment on your weight.
Rude reaction to your reply.
She sounds awful.

I'd have said "you're welcome" with a big emphatic patronising nod.

Yanbu

Next time (if there is one) just look her dead serious in the eyes and say

"That's not the compliment you think it is."

It is a normal thing to say thank you after receiving such a compliment off another female in my opinion.

HOWEVER I read somewhere that you shouldn't thank a man for a compliment, because it's the bare minimum. It's simply an observation. What are you thanking him for? Words? Being able to see?

If she's demanding gratitude from an observation, clearly her motive for those words was more tactical rather than coming from a genuine place of kindness.

But if you hate this woman maybe next time say something like...
"You've lost weight"
"As if you managed to spot that id lost some weight but you've missed that hair on your top lip"

She’s the weird one.