No sex

[Robinrbst]

We haven't had sex for 2 years. Husband has ED issues and I have mental health issues and between both We have both lost a lot of desire. I am 42, he is 37. He is struggling with weight (and trying to lose.it) after an awful year filled with multiple bereavements, financial and work stress and I have had serious health issues including a period in hospital and new medications. We just don't seem fussed and we have both stopped initiating.

I still find him attractive. We kiss, loads of cuddles, hold hands, massages. Imitate moments in the kitchen where he will kiss my neck, brush my breasts etc and it feels good, we just don't seem to have the energy for it to go much further...

Loads of affection, breakfasts in bed, deep chats and laugh all the time together, I feel more in love than ever really (been together 12 years)

I know it's not good though to be not bringing eachother sexual pleasure. But then I read that back and think that's worth a lot....just worry

If you are talking about it and aware of how each other feels, in my view you have everything you need. The actual act isn't the important part, it is showing that you want that person is the important part. Talking and acknowledging each others needs.

We do talk about it yes, not endlessly but we talk about how it's been a long time, and why we think that is.

If you are both happy with the level of intimacy you are having - its not an issue. There is no right or prescribed amount.
And you have other type of physical closeness and describe an otherwise happy relationship.
It is only problem when one person stops wanting sex while the other one still needs it.

Hope you both will sort out your health issues, irrespective of your sex life, btw

You sound as though you have a really close, loving and supportive relationship.
A lot of people would dearly love to have the level of affection you clearly have for each other.
I agree with pp that if you can talk about the sex issue and you are both accepting of the situation then it's not a problem. Every couples relationship is different. If yours is working for you both then that is what matters.

Your relationship sounds great to me.
You both sound like you are on the same page which is the most important thing.
Life isn’t like the movies for most people, but your life together seems good to me.