Does my friend have feelings?

[RoyalMail99]

I have made a new friend this year, we met through someone we both know. After a couple of months, we’ve become what I would say are best friends. We speak every day, sometimes even all day long. For many months, we spent full days together. Let’s say we spent a whole day - we would part ways and as soon as we got home, we would be on the phone until 2/4am. He’s away at the moment and still calls me every morning and evening. I often speak with his relatives on the phone. Yet he hasn’t made a move on me. I have a couple of male friends who say he’s obsessed with me. But he seems to not want to make a move.

I’m starting to wonder if I’m an emotional crutch / support for him? Is this common? Usually when a man has spent this much time with me, he has a crush. I’ve given him chances. I can’t bring myself to make a move.

Make a move, OP!

Ask him out on a date!

I'm not brave enough sadly :)

@RoyalMail99

That's OK!
Enjoy the friendship you have with him.
See where it will lead you.

How do you have so much time ti spend so long speaking each day? Aren't you at work?

What if he's in the same quandary!?

You might both get involved in other people all the while wishing the other would make a move!

Someone has to be brave or you'll never know!

I’d rather it be him…

Ah.
Well, that's that then.
Good luck.

send him this message:
“hi, a bit of an awkward question: my friends think you like me more than just a friend?”

Plausible deniability for the both of you.

Come on, be brave, New Year and all that

Ask him 'would you like a relationship?' As a general question and see where it goes

Nah. - next time you're out walking and taking just glance over, cheeky smile, and ask 'so is this just friendship or is it love?'

Depending on his reaction you can laugh it off like 'oh my god we're such a couple, we're more a couple than most couples I know hahaha'

Or 'yayyyy, me too let's get married.'

😁

How on earth do you have time to date when this friend appears to be a FT job? And I echo pp’s questions — don’t you work? How do you have time for this very time-consuming and intense ‘friendship ’?

I think you are like a support animal to him.
There doesn't seem to be any chemistry or lust that you've mentioned.

Is he just using you as a free therapist/mum someone he can talk to about his day, knowing you'll always be available to him?

Are you a uni student or not able to work? I can't see how you have all this spare time for him.

No, there is tension between us. He often compliments me on my dress and looks. He affectionately taps my knee and hugs me hard.

People always ask if we are a couple when we are out...there is an energy between us.

Can't comment on work situation as it'll be too outing. But we both lead full lives and make time for each other.

Well don't let that slip through your fingers then.

You'll only kick yourself down the line and wish you'd been brave.

He likes you, even if he doesn't share your feelings he's not going to be cruel about it!