I posted a few weeks ago about finishing things with my ex after discovering messages on his phone which confirmed my worst thoughts about what he had been upto with his ex and other women. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/5165096-just-found-out-boyfriend-has-been-lying-and-cheating
I blocked him on WhatsApp (our usual form of communication) but didn't realise the block didn't extend to the rest of my phone.
Anyway, weeks passed and no contact from either side. I started to heal and focus on myself. My birthday came around and he messaged me.
I didn't reply straight away but replied Thanks the next day and then, as he had contacted, used it as an opportunity to ask him to transfer me his share of the money he owed me for a trip I had booked for us both before things ended. He sent the money across and that was that.
Then the following day he sends me a message to say he had met a mutual friend and how highly this person had thought of me. I simply replied "👍🏻" which was my first big mistake as I should have blocked then.
Anyway, what followed after that was him sending almost daily messages apologising for everything, saying how much he missed me, telling me he couldn't stop thinking about me and looking at photos of our times together, how he imagined what our lives might have been together with our children coming together, all the things he would do differently if I would give him another chance, saying he wanted to give me a gift and a birthday cake etc, asking if I would meet with him.
I found myself getting a little bit sucked in, though wouldn't agree to meet, but he was saying all the things I finally wanted him to say.
Then over the weekend he was away somewhere with v limited signal so his messages were patchy. There was a long gap in messages between us, and the time, and time talking with my horrified friends, made me wake up a bit. I'd been getting intoxicated and drawn back in without realising.
So yesterday I took the leap and blocked him on every imaginable platform, bar turning up at my house (I don't think he would) or emailing me at work, he has no way of contacting me.
FWIW I'm a smart woman, nice home, good job, good friends and family etc... and yet I still let this man get under my skin and nearly fell for it again.
I've been reading up on hoovering after a break up and I am absolutely certain this is what was happening and I'm so relieved I realised before it progressed anywhere.
Anyone had experiences of this themselves?